If anyone wants to, they’ll save time. If you don’t have time it’s because you don’t want it or because you have other priorities, so don’t let them lie to you or be wrong either, in fact there will always be a space reserved for a person you want to see, who you want to talk to or worry about: it’s the premise of love and love.
Think about priorities: this is the secret of the temporary domain.
-Robin Sharma-
As we mature, life complicates the task of finding spaces for others or even for the activities we love, mainly because we are trapped in other activities that deprive us of almost all the free time we have, but it is not. true that this does not exist: they say that “wanting is power”, and in the case of personal relationships, it is a very important premise.
It is a natural consequence of the passage of years that we must learn to organize the free spaces that other things like work, children or studies allow us to do, so some say that life is an accumulation of priorities and second options. .
When we mentally prioritize our relationships or options, we’re actually focusing on the value we give certain people, so open your eyes as much as you can and, if you don’t feel valued as you deserve, don’t ask: asking attention is something no one certainly deserves.
If you’re in this situation, where you feel like you’re giving 100% of yourself for something that should be reciprocal and this is not the case, maybe it’s time to see that behind the lack of time there are excuses and little interest. It is usually painful and disappointing, but in the long run it is healthier to solve this imbalance than to continue to maintain it: in the end, the union of two people is a contract, in which giving is rewarding but it is also necessary to receive.
I learned that you don’t miss those who don’t seek and don’t like those who don’t miss you, this life decides who enters your life, but you decide who stays, that the truth only hurts once and that lying hurts forever, so value the one who values you and doesn’t treat those who treat you as an option.
-Anonymous-
There are key behaviors that help us realize when someone does not want to share even a small fraction of the time with us. The motivation of many of them is based on seeing you as a possibility, not a certainty. Believe that you deserve to be a priority plan and not a safe option when initial plans fail.
For example, we have all those who have had a friend, a romantic relationship or a family member that we have included in our priorities without a doubt, but who, at some point, has started to leave us a little out. Something may have happened and it’s best to talk about it, but you may have done it already, and the lack of interest in maintaining contact or preserving the relationship is gradually getting worse: remember that loving someone doesn’t have a schedule.
When someone trusts us as a second option, like Plan B, something that nobody likes to be, what they really do is freely choose what to share with themselves and who to share it with, and it turns out that that choice puts us in second place.
“If someone loves you in your life, you will find a place without fighting for it. Never stay with someone who constantly ignores you.
-Anonymous-
Even if it hurts, you can’t force someone to respond the way you want, just as you don’t have to sacrifice your dignity and self-esteem at the expense of that person’s selfishness. Unequal affection will only lead you to a false reality full of hope for a future that will probably never be present.
You also have that freedom of choice. Choose who you love in your life, and when you do, it’s probably time to think about who you’ve chosen in your own life: value those who prove you want to be by your side.
It’s about cultivating sincere relationships that allow you to maintain balanced self-esteem, it’s not an easy thing, but challenges with the best rewards never were.