There is a well-known popular saying that we never know a person and that when we think we can get to know someone completely, it can surprise us, it is one of the best feelings you can have with someone, unless the surprise is negative. In this case, don’t underestimate the other one, because you may need to rectify the way you think.
Any kind of relationship has to be renewed with news from the other that we didn’t know, and in fact it greatly improves the relationship if there is both the ability and motivation to surprise, however, the results also have one side with which one. You have to be careful, especially in situations where we meet someone for the first time.
- “I’ve always had a passion for detail.
- For the little.
- Almost invisible events that exist around us.
- Seeing people teaches us a lot.
- -Marco Levy-.
That said, we all make assumptions in the first contact with a person about their appearance, this action, to some extent, is completely human and has no harmful consequences in itself, even if it is somewhat involuntary, if this impression is negative. However, we should be careful because in general we end up trying to confirm our first impressions instead of trying to prove that they are false.
It is true that there is a group of people who talk much more than they think and sometimes say more than they know, you could even say that everyone at one time was that person, but this is not a rule: most say less than they know, think more than they talk and are aware of more than they actually believe.
It’s a self-defense mechanism against the fear of being too emotionally exposed, to show yourself completely to someone. Other times, we simply like to open up little by little and we want knowledge not to exceed the speed imposed on us by time, nor the dose of shared affection and intimacy.
“Every man I know is superior to me in a sense. And that’s how I try to learn from him?” – Ralph W. Emerson-
For these reasons, that if we are not aware, we may end up losing great people, if we judge someone beforehand, we can make mistakes that can bring us many regrets later. Let’s make room for what others have to teach us, without underestimating or hitting anyone in advance, and from there we can cultivate healthy relationships that always have something to teach us.
The truth is that it is not good for our own peace to underestimate ourselves, but we also do not feel good when someone gives us less courage than we do as people, because no one should have the audacity to try to make us feel small.
“Do people with small souls always try to belittle others?-Carlos Ruz Zafon-
If you ever came up with this and knew what to do to deal with the situation, you can feel great with the courage you had!If, on the other hand, you didn’t know how to do it, you can remember it that way. that the next time someone underestimates you, don’t create a problem with yourself.
People who behave in this way probably have low self-esteem and don’t know it: in the face of inner discomfort, they try to reduce the noise that others make.
Underestimating someone means expecting less from that person than they can give, and that’s when we break our faces: we can’t be aware of the limits or the real potential of those around us, but there are those who think we can. we know all about each other, and that’s when we fall for error. In fact, when they least expect us, that’s where we achieve our goals the most.
I’m tired of hearing people say they’re able to quickly read to others or know what’s wrong with them, but these people don’t realize they give few opportunities to those who have already judged, opportunities to be different from what they were. imagined from the beginning.
It is not uncommon for someone who has this thought and identifies, for example, a person as un kind, also behaves in this way that he attributes to another person, and in this way the chances of receiving the same treatment in reciprocity are increased and then confirms what you have thought from the beginning.
There are wonderful people who would do wonderful things that we never imagined, and there are other people who appear at the right time, being that angel we don’t count on, there are those who surprise us one day with a detail that demonstrates a great knowledge of us that we didn’t know they had, and there are also those who grow step by step because they believe in their abilities , including the presence of people around them who say they can’t and don’t want to.
So don’t let them underestimate you, don’t underestimate the other, and don’t forget the wow factor with anyone, because the unexpected and the unexpected are part of our essence as humans and, therefore, life itself.