The truth is that everyone is fighting their own internal battle, a battle whose most important details are often ignored, because they are inscribed only in the head of the one who fights it; on the other hand, a person with good or bad intentions. rarely is they aware of how harmful this can be to others and to themselves.
This unconsciousness is common for a reason beyond intent: our mind is like a train that creates thoughts without stopping, frantically and dizzyingly. Go around, create assumptions about what’s going on around us, make assumptions, develop new ideas and concepts, think and think again, anticipate the worst, and make judgments about others and also ourselves. Of course.
- This relentless blow tortures us.
- Damages us.
- And as a reminder leaves us with a “mental garbage”.
- Scientists say we have over 60.
- 000 thoughts a day.
- It is estimated that many of these thoughts (approximately 80%) are negative.
- Toxic and unnecessary in most people.
We operate in automatic mode most of the time. Therefore, we are extremely influenced by our beliefs; beliefs that were formed in our childhood and rooted in our experiences, some of these beliefs are in our subconscious, and from these beliefs our immediate thoughts and judgments are born.
If some of your beliefs are incorrect or unhealthy, so will many of your thoughts and judgments. We judge constantly. We judge others and ourselves. But the truth is that the most common consequence is suffering. Our minds make judgments to protect us, to survive. But this does not mean that, in the end, these trials corroborate the purpose for which they were “convened. “
We think the other has the same view as us, and partly that’s why we suffer so much, but we don’t. Everyone sees life through different lenses and what one thing means to me will probably mean another to you. And in this lie of believing that everyone should have the same view (ours, obviously), we dare to judge the other. And even judging, forgetting the intrinsic error to the act of judging the past of the future, being aware of the consequences of an action that were not before certainties, only probabilities.
In both cases, it is not the others that make you suffer, the first are the expectations we have of the people who make us suffer, we hope that others will be the way we want them and become unable to accept them as they really are. it’s both the beginning and the end of the battle.
Paradoxically, when you stop judging and killing others, you also stop judging and killing yourself, because the way we judge others is also the way we judge ourselves.
When you accept your essence (with all shadows included), you begin to see the shadows of others gently. When we think someone is attacking us, it’s possible that someone is waging their own internal battle. People do it unconsciously, because of their emotional wounds. and survival strategies learned in childhood when they felt deeply injured in the pursuit of love and acceptance. Sometimes, often in fact, all of this leads them to do it.
So when you think someone is attacking, remember that it’s probably not a conscious attack, but a shadow you imagine or others cast unentionally, at least without that intention.
Love increases as judgment decreases
We must accept when others do not behave as we would like, when they do not care for us as we want, but in another way, we are here to love more than to judge, to feel before reasoning. a circle to exclude you, draw an even larger one to include you.
Remember that love increases as judgment becomes flexible, compassionate, and pious. Love gives us happiness, strict judgment brings us suffering. Don’t understand love as something that can be taken away as support or punishment: unconditional love is above that.
If we stop judging and start looking from the heart, our suffering will begin to go away. You choose to be a victim or a responsible person. The victim justifies, blames, complains and surrenders, the perpetrator assumes that what exists in his life is not due to external circumstances, but to what he created himself, and he himself is the only one who can change his reality.
Life will give you eye-opening experiences, but the decision to be a victim or responsible is up to you, those who don’t learn from their own history are doomed by life to repeat their mistakes, they will be experiences in different ways. , but of equal content.