Our reality, our life cycle and our day to day are part of a circle that requires perfect harmony so that everything can move forward, for this development to be perfect it is good to understand that you accept, give up or change things. There is a stone in the way, each denial of the truth is an extra diadem.
A very present aspect of current psychology is the importance of learning to let go and release, make changes and close the steps, something that seems easy and even represents a positive change hides a reality that cannot be ignored everything in our lives It cannot be changed, and it is not possible, some places, certain realities where not everything is black or white.
? What you deny subjected you to; Carl Gustav Jung?
You may not get along with your boss, but you can enjoy your job and deal with your teammates. Perhaps, for example, you have a very complex relationship with your mother, with your father, with great ups and downs, and yet you do. I don’t see the need to permanently break the bond.
The question of all this gives rise to very clear evidence: we live on a canvas full of shades of gray, intermediate blues, stormy mornings and luminous afternoons, there are aspects of our lives that take away our peace and sometimes even personal balance. anything that involves these fluctuating adversity bulbs is significant.
How do we deal with these situations so that we no longer experience “half happiness”?Here are some answers.
There are things that just need to be accepted, but not before there’s a change in you.
Today, in this world where consumerism often invites us to abandon things at every moment to recycle boredom for the stimulating, the old for the new, it is difficult to assume terms such as acceptance, the things that are accepted give off to many of us. some defeatism, a feeling of “I have no other way than. “
However, positive psychology and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) help us understand things differently, the first thing you need to learn to contribute is true psychological flexibility, think, for example, of a small branch clinging to a mountain where an intense wind hits. this bush with intensity. It does not break because it is flexible, not like the branches of trees, so rigid and stubborn, that the elements of nature always end up breaking.
Now, visualize an obsessive and controlling mother with whom there has always been a complicated relationship, the time has come to ask the usual question: what should I do, get away from her forever or assume and shut up?Acceptance therapy will never tell you to succumb, let yourself be invaded by your antics, its negative influence, let’s look at this in detail.
For acceptance and commitment therapy, suffering is part of life, however we must learn to manage it, understand it and transform it, if we practice psychological rigidity we will only stoke this vicious cycle of losing the opportunity to freely choose the behavior that we want to apply to our daily problems.
Applying these principles, we will gradually be able to create hygienic distances where words no longer hurt, they will be able to continue living on their rebellious altars, because they no longer affect us. We know who we are and what we are, courage.
We already know that there are things that need to be accepted because we have learned to manage their impact on our lives, because in the end, the rest of the aspects around us are important to us and we can sink, move on, really build. Happiness.
Letting go is better than repressing yourself, because it gives power and containment is limiting.
There are also times in our lives when the spirits have disappeared and the idea that it may take a little longer leads us to a dead end. These are moments of great pain, of great difficulty where only the brave know what is most suitable: to let go, to change air, to live, to landscape.
Closing one door to open another will never be a mistake. Happiness is never a guarantee when we make a change, it is a fact, however, the worst failure is to stay where only disappointment grows, where our own self-esteem is fragmented into a drowned cry, in a period that no one respects.
Let us learn to apply this simple principle in our lives where fear or indecision makes no sense: things must be accepted, changed, or abandoned.
Images courtesy of Sonia Kosh.