When emotions block and saturate us, we try to establish self-control.
We have been taught that it is not beautiful to cry, nor to be seen to suffer, so we always try to be whole, happy and strong in front of others, even if inside we are about to burst, even if we are vulnerable, weak and sad.
- So.
- We try to hide what we feel.
- Repress.
- Live as if we don’t feel what we really do.
- That is.
- Deny our own emotions.
And the day we reach our limit, we feel tired, exhausted, wanting to leave everything behind and, that day, emotions overflow, lose control, arise without permission, and we feel very bad about it.
At the same time, our body, physically sore, responds sickly, with uncontrollable reactions, suffering?
It’s emotional catharsis. When we suffer from emotional depression, our emotions block us, paralyze us, and then we can no longer be strong and contain them, we feel defeated, small, as if the world is a dangerous place, where everything hurts, causes pain and no one understands. .
It was precisely this cathartic moment that we wanted to avoid for a long time, more precisely during the time when we claimed to be strong, impassive, courageous and thus had achieved self-control, so necessary to feel balanced.
However, everything reached a limit and had to happen
If we analyze and observe the “emotional explosion,” will we realize that it didn’t come out of nowhere, but was getting ready?for a certain time; We have been and not allowed feelings to arise, neither the deepest nor truer unconscious. So we can say that we reject them, we do not allow them to leave, in fact, we do not accept them.
And if we keep looking, we can unveil thoughts of “personal request,” such as “I need to be okay,” and that’s why we’ve come together, hid the deepest emotions, and because of that, we were able to go on living with him?False, sense of control and balance.
This cathartic explosion has to happen for “emotional health” if we reach this level of emotional denial.
However, it is healthier not to get to this point, so from the first emotion or feeling I will allow myself to live it in all its expression, accepting that “I am a human being and I have emotions”, valued this as part of a process of learning, growth, change and maturity.
So is it necessary to find healthy ways to express emotions that do not harm oneself or others, and where to get them out, scream, count, cry?And get rid of them. All repression is negative, it makes emotions grow in us, but with more intensity and pain, because they are not resolved.
It’s therapeutic, liberating. And that means he accepts emotions, talks about them and doesn’t hide them. We call it emotional intelligence.
To do this, it is essential to lose the fear of suffering, to feel vulnerable to others, since the greatest pain is the one that is not expressed, the greatest vulnerability is the pressure to hide, not to be oneself.
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