Every emotion you hide or resist persists even more. Have you ever heard that expression?
Sometimes in psychology it is said that pain is the best remedy, it is possible that this affirmation surprises you and even that you do not accept it, but there is no reality more evident than assuming that every emotion lived leads to learning.
- Suffering.
- For example.
- Is often the best chisel of our vital knowledge.
- Which marks new friends and paths of new learning achieved through losses.
- Defeats or disappointments.
- Although there are those who prefer not to see them.
- There are those who are more inclined to hide this pain in the abyss of their being and simply pass the key in this emotional lock.
And finally, what’s going to happen? The pain will persist, but this time it will take new forms. Will anger, resentment appear? Everything that resists persists, let’s talk about it today. Faced with the promptness of emotional denial.
Let’s take an example. You have an emotional relationship with a person, you love them and you have a solid life with your partner, yet something in you tells you that things are no longer the way they used to be, you realize that this person no longer loves you. How to accept? You deny it. And for whatever reason, the other person doesn’t want to prove that this is happening.
Time passes and, while knowing full well that what you’re having is no longer an authentic relationship, you refuse to assume, to see, the people around you are signaling what’s going on, but you’re defending yourself, their emotional denial persists and resists every day.
What will happen is that the more you hide the truth, the more it will increase, others will emerge. Far from leaving it aside and not thinking about it, it will be a constant and destructive thought. Because the mind has a terrible mechanism about negative emotions; can become almost obsessive thoughts.
If we say something like “I won’t be sad” in states of great anxiety, the exact opposite will happen. The point is not to tell you that you shouldn’t be sad. The reality is to ask yourself why you’re sad.
It may sound ironic, but it is. Emotional denial is an entity that tends to persist over time, which resides in logic and reasoning, becomes obsessive and almost irrational.
If I deny it, it doesn’t exist. I’m done with the problem, but actually, the problem is so big I can’t help but think about it.
Emotions such as sadness, anger and fear are good remedies, once again we emphasize that idea. They are the hardest to assume, we know, but they play an adaptable function, fear forces us to run and escape and, therefore, to survive, it is something of the instinct that we learn as a species.
However, in the course of our evolution, we have also learned that sometimes the solution is not to function or function, but to stop and know this enemy who wants to hurt us, to deny it will not help us. Sadness, in turn, must be assumed, accepted, weeped and then confronted. Negative emotions allow us to survive because they often force us to go to the other side, to the opposite side, where the real reality is.
The emotional denial he chooses to resist will persist until our own destruction, until we can’t. Why resist? Let her go, as they say, if you resist an enemy, it will give you more strength. Then it is better not to offer resistance: accept the evidence, the pain, the terror. Take control and, every day, they will disappear.