Usually, the most talked about emotional addiction is addiction among a partner. This complex psychological state prevents a person from breaking up a relationship that causes pain. Although he is aware that there is a problem, he cannot break ties with the other person. It does so because it believes that the damage of this toxic relationship is less than the benefits it brings.
It is an unstable relationship, where the self-esteem of the dependent person is seriously affected, idealizes his partner, is very afraid of loneliness and if the relationship ends, it will enter a crisis of abstinence, it is an unbalanced and destructive connection. ; a real addiction. However, emotional dependence does not only exist between couples; there are two other types that we will discuss in this article.
- Depending on the person you love is a way to sink into life.
- An act of psychological self-mutilation.
- Where self-love.
- Self-esteem and the essence of oneself are offered irrationally.
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Emotional dependence within the family environment occurs when one member shows excessive attachment to the other. Their behavior is obsessive, suffocating and will be “strange,” especially for the person who perceives this addiction.
An example of this addiction would be, for example, a parent who needs to control and know the daily life of one of his children, needs to talk to him at all times, know how he is and what he is doing. A common feature in these cases is that, in your mind, you always expect the ‘worst’, so make sure everything is okay.
What happens when the child wants to become independent? The father or mother puts he or she in the role of victim, uses crying and some manipulation techniques so as not to lose what has become the meaning of their life, if none of this works it will increase control and the burden will be so intense that the relationship can be damaged.
In another example, we might find a child who needs the constant approval of his parents to feel safe, so nothing can be done or a decision made without the approval of the parents, a dependent child will give up certain projects or opportunities out of fear. to leave the parents.
Emotional dependence on the family can have its causes in an unbalanced emotional bond or in lack of affection.
Many times throughout life, we may encounter a relationship with some kind of addiction; We don’t have to get them through. This type of unbalanced and harmful relationship will always have serious consequences. On the other hand, many of these relationships are maintained because there is mutual dependence: parents have educated their child to feel insecure and dependent.
The person in this group is characterized by a great need to be recognized by others to feel accepted, perhaps that is why you spend a lot of time worrying about other people’s problems, while forgetting your own, a sign that you are looking for their self-esteem from external sources.
That’s what makes your life meaningful. You need a connection with others, to serve in something, to sacrifice yourself so that others are happy and, in this way, they are also happy.
The person who is emotionally dependent on the social environment is always eager to please others, which will prevent him from healthy insurance, all of which causes him to lose a great deal of energy, run out physically and emotionally, while establishing relationships where disappointment will be the cause. main protagonist.
The emotionally dependent person wants the exclusivity of those who are important in his life.
People may depend not only on their partner, family or social environment, but on each of them: they believe they know no other way to relate to their loved ones and do so because they think it means that person is important to them, but what about you?Is an emotional addict always looking for authoritarian, exploitative and narcissistic people, who bring greater security at first, even if it’s wrong.
Emotional dependence can become a way of life full of difficulties, sadness and unhappiness, so it is important to realize and treat this addiction in time, there are many reasons why a person develops an emotional addiction, which can often be confused with true love. .
Idealizing and prioritizing others without ourselves will take us away from a love that we set aside and that will be the key to ending any process of dependence: self-love.
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