When relationships become cold, the most reprehensible behaviors often occur, there are those who, after emotional estrangation, give way to physical disconnection to leave without giving an explanation, there are also those who use false excuses, and who refuse to take responsibility. the emptiness of the bond, the cold of a couple or the friendship that is coming to an end.
Relationships, like bones, also break. However, most of these disturbances or distances do not always occur overnight, most of the time the terms are preceded by a subtle and progressive detachment, lack of complicity, looks that are no longer found and laughter that no longer shares the same things is usually the first clues.
- Emotional distance always hurts.
- And more if there is a part that continues to feed and believe in the bond.
- However.
- It should be noted that many times the other party also suffers from a certain feeling of guilt or remorse.
- In all these situations.
- There is one thing that remains in the spotlight: our poor ability to manage terminations.
Proper resolution always makes it easier to move to this new stage, otherwise, and especially if one is forced to face ghost images (being abandoned abruptly and without explanation), it may be more difficult to overcome this experience, however, we have all the resources in us to deal with this situation.
“I feel so isolated that I can feel the distance between me and my presence. “- Fernando Pessoa-
When relationships get cold, there’s always a reason behind us, even if we don’t like it: lack of love, selflessness, new needs and interests, opposing views on certain things, when the flame of an emotional bond goes out. , always gives way to dense and ambiguous darkness in which you don’t really know how to move.
A study published by Charlene Belu and Brenda H. Lee, from the University of Cambridge, points out that few things are as complex for human beings as leaving a relationship, what could be shown in this work is that, on several occasions, we must Know or clarify the reason for this end, in order to rebuild our lives.
Otherwise, people do not hesitate to try to contact each other again; Repeatedly insist on hindering the grieving process and the opportunity to complete a step to start a new one with greater integrity.
What the researchers in this work were able to verify is the inappropriate dynamics we generally use when relationships are great.
As we indicated at the beginning, the most harmful and inappropriate dynamic to face the end of the bond is to disappear without saying anything. The ghost is currently a recurring practice that is experienced in romantic and friendly relationships.
When relationships cool down, they don’t always reflect the prelude to an irretrievable ending. It should be noted that emotional distance can lead us adrift for a while; However, sometimes, if we are able to use the right strategies, we can heat up the relationship. bright (in case he deserves to be saved).
Anxiety and depressive disorders are certainly anxiety and depressive disorders, these states directly affect the quality of social relationships. For example, when a person goes through a period of stress or discouragement, they generally don’t have enough energy and motivation to enjoy their relationships.
With all this, we want to emphasize something very simple: emotional distance and these refreshing relationships can be managed. The bonds, as well as the people themselves, go through different stages and need attention, new nutrients, and allow us to learn from their own conflicts. and differences to grow, to move forward transformed into something new and stronger.
In all these cases, both to rekindle the bond and save it, and to end it, we must be emotionally competent people, and this discipline is not taught in schools, we must practice it daily in small things, in sensitivity, in respect, in the exercise of dignity and assertiveness.
Because every bond, whether as a couple or a friendship, deserves to be respected in each of its phases, knowing how to free yourself with integrity and respect says a lot about our human quality.