There is a basic rule for preserving our emotional health: to differentiate between those who deserve us and those who do not, for this we must know some basic principles of discernment, which consist fundamentally of separating good from evil in order to appreciate nuances. gray of our relationships.
Selfishness is harmful and, therefore, it is better to keep it out of our lives. Nor do we deserve indifference, inache attention and ill-treatment, they are maxims or principles that must be unwavering.
- In any case.
- This does not mean that what we do not deserve makes us bad people.
- But that our relationship may not be healthy and feed a negative bond full of pain.
- Which opens up dangerous wounds to our emotional health.
To know what is good or not for us, we must be very clear about the emotional messages that are healthy for us, that is, we must analyze our internal dialogue. But what is our inner dialogue?
Internal dialogue is the way we communicate with ourselves and it is crucial to manage our self-concept and self-esteem. Therefore, it must be positive and give us confidence, security, vitality and projection.
Similarly, while our image of ourselves is generally based on the following phrases, it is difficult to attract good deeds and relationships into our lives:
We know the effect that the words of others have on us when they do us good, when they hurt us or stop speaking in a proper tone, however, we do not often wonder how the way we talk about ourselves influences our relationships.
If we notice a negative internal dialogue we must act on the subject and start sending us positive and emotionally intelligent signals, they can be of different types depending on what we need, so if, for example, we are talking about a person who thinks “it is worthless”, you have to say “I am worth a lot because”.
Our brain receives our orders and, depending on the type of thinking we are used to, it manufactures one neurochemical machine or another, meaning that, for example, the thoughts that our brain creates block or promote the release of Serotonin.
It is much more complex, of course, but this simple rule will help us understand that people whose language is pessimistic, uncertain and dependent are going to be much more vulnerable in their relationships and are therefore likely to encounter the wrong people in situations. bad, it ends up harming your emotional health.
That is why it is so important to control what we say to ourselves and others, because it will help us to clearly discern what is good or bad for us, and to strengthen ourselves to say that we do not want in our lives. that doesn’t deserve us, because it doesn’t do us any good.
“You do not deserve anyone who, with his indifference, makes you feel invisible and absent. You deserve someone who, with your attention, makes you feel important and present.
You don’t deserve anyone to fool you with what he says and immediately disappoint you with his actions. You deserve the one who says little, but who does more.
You don’t deserve those who come to you only when they need you, but they deserve you, you who are always by your side when they know you need it, you don’t deserve that thing that saddens you and makes you cry, but that makes you happy and makes you smile. ?.
Has it time for the next task, to complete the sentence?I love why?? as many times as we want and in a totally sincere and spontaneous way, everything is fine. We must not place barriers against ourselves.
If our relationship forces us to compromise our positive internal dialogue, something is really wrong. Often, the solution to restoring the balance of our internal conversations is to talk to people who “affect us. “
We must try to find a healthy balance that enhances our emotional health. If this agreement does not materialize, we must still choose to be our priority, take care of ourselves and start writing an internal guide in which we are the main protagonists.