Navigating life with emotional insecurity can be a heavy burden, doubting everything, especially ourselves, is one of the biggest obstacles to personal development of insecurity, always walking in fear, without confidence and indecisiveness, it is like trying to maintain balance on the tightrope and having to juggle with a thousand one to try not to fall.
This insecurity may have always accompanied us, the result of an unhappy childhood because of the lack of sense of protection and security, or perhaps it could have come exactly for the opposite reason, that is, because of excessive overprotection that made us feel inferior or useless. In fact, another possibility is that this insecurity has arisen recently, after a very traumatic situation that was a blow to us.
- Emotional insecurity is the greatest enemy of development.
- The main culprit of boycott of self-esteem and the greatest obstacle to building strong bonds.
- If we let it invade us.
- Invade us and eventually nullify our will with criticism and continuous questioning.
- However.
- We can always protect ourselves so that this does not happen and.
- At worst.
- We can start over and build or rebuild the sense of lost security.
- Let’s see below.
“Distrust is the mother of insecurity. ” – Arist-fanes-
Emotional insecurity comes from a constant doubt of oneself. Doubts about your own skills, feelings and ways of acting. It is a state of constant confusion that paralyzes and also makes us wait for the validation of others. Most of the time, is the currency to finally achieve peace of mind?if it’s not true.
However, it should not be forgotten that life is, in essence, insecurity and uncertainty; in fact, the Spanish philosopher and essayist José Ortega y Gasset would say that life is a radical insecurity, as it may even cease to exist at any time. The problem is that we are not always aware of that, we spend the day planning, organizing, creating illusions for the future with the certainty that everything will come out at least a little as we hope and without warning, everything can be broken in a thousand You def from the road or it just ends and you have to look for a new one.
Knowing that everything can change in seconds can help us live differently, such as living more intensely, however, this does not mean that we should adopt insecurity as a companion to our routine, it just means that it is normal to have it in sight, because sooner or later it will appear in our film and it is better to be prepared to face it.
So you mean it’s better not to be sure and not take anything for granted, no, we just say that every now and then we have to notice your presence so as not to live in an imaginary world, now this can’t happen too much. We have a lot of emotional security because, in addition to invalidating any feeling of self-confidence, it can also extend to all walks of life. So how can we move forward if we’re not sure about anything?
The important thing is to know how to differentiate the insecurity more related to a general awareness of life, as an indicator of external, and emotional insecurity, a much more specific internal state that has to do with ourselves and how we value ourselves. It’s good to keep in mind that change is a permanent thing in life, just as uncertainty is normal and can even help us see life differently, but at the same time, we have to trust each other and not wait for others to express what we have to do. do or how we have to do things to feel good.
To better understand the world of emotional insecurity and how it affects us, it is important to understand what it means to be an insecure person, below we will talk about some of the most common characteristics of the people who have adopted this condition as part of themselves.
“Distrust is a sign of weakness. ” -Indira Gandhi-
Unsafe people tend to act and think highly conditioned by constant internal warfare, a struggle between the need to highlight and demonstrate to others how valid they are, and a deep sense of disability and disability, in fact, in the most serious cases, this type of person is considered no one if others do not value it, i. e. , become completely empty and invisible.
Austrian psychoanalyst Alfred Adler proposed the concept of inferiority complex as an indicator of this type of personality in people and said that inseurgized people are constantly struggling to be superior, which could even have a negative impact on their relationships. This type of person might be happy if he managed to make others unhappy. In addition, he described this type of behavior as typical of a neurotic person.
But not all unsafe people are characterized by these behaviors. It all depends on how suspicious they are of their lifetime skills and successes.
It is possible to reduce the constant doubt about ourselves and find this insecurity so negative that it governs us, the important thing is to know that the effort must be ours and that, if we are used to underestimating ourselves, this process will take time. and will require patience and determination.
Believing in yourself is one of the strongest pillars you can build to avoid falling down and being overwhelmed by emotional distress. It is also very hard, daily and constant work. To do this, we must take into account a series of aspects:
Now that you know the way, why don’t you go down the road?Valuing ourselves is one of the most beautiful gifts we can give ourselves in life. Trusting us and our capabilities is a scale that ends with evolution and personal growth.