Do we spend years listening to the term? Emotional intelligence created by psychologist Daniel Golemann, after all, what is emotional intelligence?, how do we apply it in our daily lives?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand your own emotions and those of others in a balanced way, and to solve your own daily problems without the world collapsing. Emotional intelligence is the ability to manage emotions.
- “I care about everything.
- If I have a job.
- Do I drown out the stress if I don’t?I’m drowned in bitterness.
- If I don’t have a partner.
- I’m lonely and if I have it.
- I think we should have more space.
- I don’t go out with friends.
- I feel depressed and bored.
- And if I do.
- Do I feel like I’m not going to any meeting?.
I always complain about everything and nothing suits me. I’m not happy and I really think it’s because I don’t want to be happy; because I drown in a glass of water in the face of the slightest problem, because I can’t see the glass half full and because I oversize the little everyday problems that others face with humor How can I change my attitude?
Why should we have more emotional intelligence? If we had to summarize the answer in a nut words, perhaps we could say that we need to have more emotional intelligence to be happier What is the meaning of life if we don’t try to be happy?Of course, problems will come, life will not always smile, but we have, if we will, the power to transform reality.
And how do you do that? Develop emotional intelligence. Learn to manage your emotions with yourself and with others, take responsibility and be aware that it is we who can direct them towards our well-being or our discomfort.
Here are some ideas you can apply in your daily life to develop your emotional intelligence Dare and put them into practice!You will be surprised by its benefits:
1. Have a predisposition to emotional improvement. No one changes until you are determined to take this course. No one can help a person quit smoking, lose weight, etc. , if they don’t want to. Emotional intelligence is the same.
2. Learn how to deal with the small setbacks of day to day. Find the bright side of everything that happens to you. Did you just lose a love, a job, a friend? Don’t worry too much, think these are difficult times. but that everything happens and that life surprises us again with new opportunities.
3. Red torture you with negative thoughts. Entering the spiral of negative thoughts makes no sense. Really, what do you solve with negative thoughts? Try to learn to say ‘enough’. Play music, dance, exercise, talk to others and distract your mind when you start thinking like that.
4. When you are unwell look for someone you know who will bring you peace and refuge, surely you have someone around you who has the ability to make you see life in a positive way, look for it, search for its words and thank them for their friendship.
5. Have an open mind towards others. In short, be empathetic, do not blame others so much, try to understand them, pretending that others are the way you want them to be is a senseless war, take away the positive side of people. We all have flaws and virtues.
6. Listen to your body, this will help you identify many of your feelings, did you feel a knot in your stomach when you were told bad news ?, do you feel a little dizzy about this new situation?Find out how your body is the first to identify and understand emotions, including transforming them, learning to breathe, calm down, etc.
7. Net takes things if it’s iron and fire. Really, if we stop and think a little bit, we’ll pass. Why don’t we put a little bit of us and try to take things more quietly?If the boss today is unbearable, that’s his problem. Don’t let that influence you.
8. Resolve conflicts with others in a positive way. They say when we talk, we understand each other. When you have a problem with someone, try to fix it in the best way possible, talking and exposing your views. If you feel like you’re a negative person and with them “can’t do it,” stay gently singing.
So, if you want to be happy, you just need the will and effort that, with these tips, will make you see life differently, train your emotional intelligence and discover its benefits in your daily life, both for you and for relationships with others. What are you waiting for?
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