Emotional intelligence is much more than a set of approaches and strategies that serve to better identify and manage our own emotions, especially we talk about acquiring a real emotional consciousness with which to build stronger and more respectful relationships, as well as being a key to the power with which we feel safer, more successful and happier.
We have all read it, taken some course or heard about emotional intelligence in many contexts that are part of our social life: school, university, work . . . A large part of the population associates these terms almost instantly with a name, that of psychologist Daniel. Goleman.
“The key to achieving a high collective IQ is social harmony. – Daniel Goleman?
Well, long before Goleman published his famous book?Emotional intelligence? By 1995, this term had already appeared in the scientific world with Michael Beldoch in 1964 and in several articles that talked about communication and emotional sensitivity, its implications and how they determine our relationships and personality. Since then, the theme has made remarkable progress, leading to different approaches and criticisms.
There are many experts who do not see scientific rigor in the subject, who do not accept the idea that emotional intelligence is a type of intelligence, but rather a mastery of it, a skill, however, the implication that this psychological, social and social The motivational perspective that we have in our daily life overcomes the possible deficiencies that may or may not exist in Daniel Goleman’s theory.
Emotional intelligence improves our quality of life, our interpersonal relationships, our own perception and even our professional competence; In addition, it is an approach that should structure most areas of the curriculum in schools, in order to train more competent, safe and happy people. .
The importance of applying this approach and emotional awareness is fundamental to improving our own personal and social reality. Let’s see why.
In childhood, many of us were guided on the path of emotional containment. Almost unknowingly, our parents and educators advised us not to cry, “Are you already a big boy?”Or this common phrase?Do you take everything too seriously?.
The low sensitivity to the emotional world of our own or others determines many scenarios that we go through every day, in the family sphere this persecution to camouflage emotions is always very present, not forgetting our own work, where hierarchical organizations led by leaders focused on achieving immediate goals and creating an oppressive and stressful professional climate continue to succeed.
Goleman points out that emotional intelligence is present in any relational context, and that, in turn, it has a fundamental goal: to offer us a life of more accomplishments.
Think for a moment about emotional intelligence as an antenna. An antenna with double sensor: inside and outside, through which we know each other better, we understand the ball of our emotions and, in turn, that of others.
“Looking straight in the eye opens the door to access empathy. – Daniel Goleman?
The paradigm of work is changing. Realities already as close as the possibility of more automated work or done by machines or robots lead specialists in the field to warn us of something very achievable: in the future technical knowledge will not be valued, but personal skills will be privileged.
Therefore, skills such as creativity, critical thinking, ingenuity and emotional intelligence are fundamental to a more automated professional world, an environment in which professionals must be good, which until now was not very considerate.
The emotional intelligence applied to work allows us to develop the following skills:
Emotional intelligence is essential to empower children to develop their ability to build more positive relationships with their families and peers, develop a more balanced perspective on life, and, in turn, achieve good academic potential. at school. In the end, does being able to manage and understand the emotional world itself mean having an exceptional channel for learning, attention, memory, and mastery of frustration?
“The ability to express one’s feelings is a fundamental social competence. – Daniel Goleman?
On the other hand, one interesting thing that was noticed by the famous 19th-century physician William Osler is that children make their emotions their first language, so they understand the world, how they communicate, demand, express, interact and explore, and just as they begin to develop their consciousness.
Therefore, it is necessary to be your guides, your mediators and your translators of these emotional mazes that in a few seconds place them in the corner of vulnerability or in the cabin of frustration that sometimes slides into adulthood.
Emotional intelligence gives us the basic keys and structure that should be part of this daily substrate where the child evolves in his daily life, are seeds of power and well-being that we must sow in his mind and heart:
Finally, a fundamental strategy in the education of our children is to value in them the good management of interpersonal interaction, where self-affirmation and social skills to negotiate and resolve conflicts will certainly offer them good assets for their daily life.
In conclusion, as we have seen, the field of emotional intelligence unersies, nourishes and revitalizes all areas of our lives, let us make it our fuel, the wind that animates the sails of our lives in these complex and changing seas.