Falling in love is, for many, a roller coaster of nervous emotions, difficult to organize, an intense chaos of happiness, sometimes dotted with the most unbearable sorrows.
A reality that can be even more overflowing for so-called “high-sensitivity people” (NO).
- Let us remember that very sensitive people occupy 20% of our population and encompass a number of psychological and emotional peculiarities that differentiate them from others.
The worldview of very sensitive people is part of the bottom of their heart, and although many call it “gift”, sometimes aura, the truth is that it can end up damaging true happiness.
These people are intuitive and creative, they are able to perceive the emotions of others in all their tones, but this, in turn, makes them more receptive, that is, they feel more affected and hurt in the face of some things than the rest of people. The people.
Very sensitive people appreciate their loneliness much more, sometimes prefer to undertake activities alone, being able to appreciate the world in its authentic reality.
They have their own rhythm, their own time, very different from the fast materialism of the rest, where they do not always feel integrated.
They are observant, intuitive, detailed, self-demanding and have a lower limit of pain, feel uncomfortable with loud sounds and it is even common to see young children who feel pain when wearing certain clothes and hearing certain voices.
As you can see, very sensitive people have a finer view of reality, but at the same time, this gift, this personality trait, makes them much more vulnerable, especially in love?
Since PAS people make up about 20% of the population, it is normal for there to be several relationships with people who are NOT, i. e. people who are not sensitive.
There are, of course, many individual differences: there are very sensitive people who have decided that it is better to be alone, thanks to the incompatibilities and suffering they cause.
There are cases where this cluster of sensations or emotions generates in them a high level of stress and anxiety, which results in physical pain. A pain so severe that it made them think it was better not to fall in love.
But it must also be said that very sensitive people fall in love easily, their virtue of appreciating people in all their fields attracts them immediately and fills them with a comforting energy, which in this case is a physical and emotional attraction.
But they face several risks that need to be taken into account
If you’re a very sensitive person, you may gradually realize that your partner doesn’t appreciate the same things as you, it doesn’t reach the same emotional and intellectual depth as you.
Will it sometimes frustrate you and demand certain things from your partner, things that he simply can’t offer you or that he can’t see or kill?Are personalities generally so different that it is common for disappointments and misunderstandings to arise?
If you are an PAS person, you should be minded that others may not meet your expectations or may not be on the same level as you, and all of this often leads to great suffering.
Another reality that often happens is that very sensitive people find it very difficult to monitor their personal limits: they usually offer everything to each other, forgetting themselves.
It’s a very big risk. Obviously it is wonderful to realize this symbiotic union where we offer all our love, all our emotions, our time and our experiences for our loved one?For very sensitive people, there is nothing more comforting.
But we must protect ourselves and beware of limits, if we give ourselves everything we will lose our identity and we will be even more vulnerable to any disappointment, to any situation that may be disconcerting, to any difference.
Gradually frustration and disappointment can arise, dimensions that, for a person with such sensitivity and for whom self-demand is very important, can end up being very destructive.
Any failure or disappointment is lived very traumatically at all levels, both physically and psychologically, with the risk of falling into depression.
You have to be aware of that. Being a PERSON can NOT be a virtue, a gift, but it is, in fact, a personality trait that requires self-knowledge, knowing how we look and what hurts us in order to establish limits in which we can protect ourselves.
Understand that the rest of the people won’t feel what you feel, they won’t see what you see, but they can still love and offer you the happiness you deserve too.
Maintain a good level of self-esteem by enjoying who you are and who you are, this sensitivity may sometimes be synonymous with suffering, but it’s not always like that.
By better understanding yourself, you can survive in this reality that sometimes doesn’t shine with all the sensitivity it should.