Emotional responsibility to oneself involves taking care of the situation, not only of the behaviors we adopt, but also of what we think and feel, in short, of our existence.
Throughout our lives, when we are in contact with others, most of the time we find ourselves talking about ourselves, even if we think that we will give an opinion about a friend or family member, we place in others what we are not prepared to assume. that exists in ourselves. In other words, we project and assign responsibility for how we feel about others.
- Most of the statements or comments we make about others are.
- In fact.
- Superficial and secret statements that.
- In most cases.
- Reflect our own behavior.
Therefore, the reading of others can be a faithful reflection of what is happening to us, the outside speaks to us and serves as a mirror and reaffirms our willingness to see what outstanding problems we have with ourselves.
Isn’t it time to fix this problem?
We are used to holding others accountable for our emotions, that is, what we feel, just as we are responsible for how others feel.
So if someone around us doesn’t feel well, we feel responsible and try at all costs to change that, as if we had all the tools to solve the suffering of others. responsibility for that feeling in one situation or another.
Taking responsibility for other people’s emotions can become a big burden on our individual development, as well as seeking guilt for what we feel, because it’s not about the culprits, it’s about managing our feelings and our emotional responsibility.
How often do we express ourselves this way?Yes? You’re hurting me It’s not about looking for the culprit, it’s about identifying what you feel in certain circumstances and accepting that you’re responsible for your feelings, some feelings are inevitable in certain situations, but this feeling can only last if you have the support of Start dealing with your anger, jealousy, anger or sadness, because the answers aren’t out there , but inside you.
Let’s stop looking out and look inwards and keep growing
If you don’t take control of your emotions, who will, the others?The situation? That would bring a lot of instability, wouldn’t it?
This doesn’t mean you don’t have to express yourself and express what you think of others, but that you’re responsible for managing your feelings. Instead of giving others the power of your well-being or discomfort, take control of your own life. .
You have as much right to worry about something as anyone else, there’s nothing wrong with that, however, if you take control of it, you won’t be held hostage to your feelings, everything will be more satisfying, a process of self-awareness. and personal growth. Otherwise, we will always be hostages to others and circumstances.
This also happens when we talk about those around us, when you give your opinion or criticize someone trying to be a little more aware of what you’re saying, most of the time what you’ve said is also present in you.
How do you do that?
First accept that there is an opportunity to project you into others, it is not an easy task, considering that if you do it is because at this moment you are not in a position to assume it, that is why we tend to resist. responsibility for our reactions.
“Don’t you bother me, I get angry about what you did or what happened?” I am the one who feels angry, sad or angry, given the different circumstances that occur in my life, and I do not avoid them, agreeing to work on it. However, when it came to everything, am I responsible for myself?
When we assume our responsibilities, we assume all that belongs to us, owned by our feelings, thoughts, actions, and consequences.
To acquire awareness and observe each other, discover all the things that stand out, work on them to continue evolving and growing, this path is not easy, many times we fall into the contradictions and traps of our own self, but it will be worth it.
The process of self-decipherment and emotional responsibility is full of twists and turns, but if we are persevering, in the end we will find a haven of peace within ourselves.