When it comes to self-harm, it is common to think, almost instantly, of a physical injury; in fact, today, this kind of deliberate self-harm is becoming increasingly common as a way to calm (dramatically) anger. suffering or frustration. However impressive, however impressive, there is another, even more recurrent aspect that is barely talked about: emotional self-harm.
Injuries do not occur exclusively in the physical universe, in the territory of the skin and the senses, we know that it hurts, like words, however, sometimes it is difficult to identify this form of pain that comes from the outside and causes other pains in an infinite and perverse way, whether out of contempt, abuse, emptiness, screams, lies, etc.
But what about the form of pain that the person causes himself, is it possible?
They tear self-esteem apart, they are direct blows to their dignity that end up getting in love in the form of anxiety or anguish. Gradually, the wound becomes infected and causes depression, we will understand it better below.
Emotional self-harm can be defined as thoughts and behaviors that go against us and that are clearly detrimental to our emotional well-being, something like that forces us to think about the concept of injury.
So while it’s true that we’re concerned about behaviors like cutting, risuka or self-harm, which many teens practice when they injure their bodies from being cut, there is this other dimension that goes further unnoticed. mood disorders, especially if this form of internal injury is performed continuously, day after day.
But how can we do that?We’ll see later
In each of us there is a voiceover, a silhouette with a whip and other tools of torture with which he likes to torture us, this is done in the form of a boycott, convincing us that we are not worthy of certain things, immersing ourselves in insecurities, reminding us of the mistakes of the past and placing a burden on our potential.
But we must not deceive ourselves, because this executioner has our face and our voice: we are ourselves, we are the ones who give you strength through negative internal dialogue, irrational ideas, meaningless fears and discourse fueled by low self-esteem. criticism is responsible for many of our emotional wounds.
When we talk about behaviors that follow the same pattern, we mean behaviors that are repeated over time, that follow the same line How do we relate them to emotional self-harm?In a way that will be familiar to all of us, there are those who always end up finding the same kind of emotional partner: a narcissistic and abusive person with whom they establish a relationship from a distance.
It is like stumbling over and over again with the same stone without learning to identify and avoid it, this type of situation generates double suffering and constant frustration, because not only do we feel the pain of this harmful relationship, but we also end up blaming ourselves . falling in love with the same kind of person.
There are people who have a huge heart, infinite goodness that has no limits or measures of protection, and this, it must be said, is a danger, to be noble, to be an accessible person, willing to help, to do everything possible for others is admirable. However, if that person does not put protective barriers and cannot say?If necessary, you will end up suffering many emotional wounds.
Many take advantage of the goodness of others and do not hesitate to use others as doormats, as surfaces on which they walk as they please, we must avoid it, because the effects of these situations are very harmful to self-esteem.
Life is not just work, nor routine, let alone pleasing others, an authentic life needs passion, projects to achieve, illusion, being able to do what we love, dedicate time to oneself through experiences that move us, that make us grow.
If we don’t have any of these ingredients we leave, a day without emotions and without hope results in small internal wounds that no one can see, but it is through those wounds that hopes, dreams and even our essence escape.
We must ensure this subtle balance between obligations and pleasures, between work and sleep, between our partner and ourselves.
In conclusion, while it is true that most of us carry more than one emotional wound, this is always the right time to heal them.
Habits such as spending time on ourselves, developing self-esteem and caring for ourselves with great affection will cure this pain and transform us into people who are braver, stronger and more willing to work for their own happiness.