One of the basic rules of mental health is to live and develop daily in positive emotional spaces, these are those in which the main rule is to “be and let be”, these are environments where we can feel free, but connected to something or someone. We should all have a favorite place, a rewarding environment to flourish and grow emotionally.
The issue of emotional spaces is not new, however, most of the documentation and literature we find is almost always associated with work contexts, in fact and as we all know, in a few places we get both the impact of the emotional climate and where we work every day, in them there are always facilitating variables with which we feel comfortable to relate , or even to put all our human potential in the hands of the organization itself.
- However.
- It can be said that the always interesting theme of emotional space goes far beyond the working context.
- To begin with there is a fundamental aspect that cannot be forgotten: from the moment there is a physical space where one or more people live.
- A certain climate is created.
- All of us? Emotional programming.
- In addition to that of other members.
- Creates an enriching.
- Hostile or neutral environment.
In turn, one very curious thing some psychologists explain is that many times five minutes are enough to capture, for example, the emotional mood of a home or family. Reading expressions, tone of voice, and communication style can allow us to deduce many things.
In addition, real estate agents even know that 30 seconds after entering a house, the person already knows whether they like it or not, because sometimes, even if an environment is empty of people, our brain is still imbued with very subjective emotional stimuli. (the brightness, colors and specific details to which our mind will give an emotional value based on our experiences and our lifestyle). personality).
Herman Melville said the most beautiful places are not on the maps. The most beautiful spaces are those that two people who love each other build maturely, who tear down their own walls to enlarge the other, who sow respect and reap satisfaction, who invest in their own happiness knowing that that inner well-being is time to be loved.
Positive and quality emotional spaces, more than one can imagine, are not easy to build, a mistake that sometimes makes us sink into this goal is to think that every happy and meaningful environment stands up to make others happy. an example, we make it easy to position ourselves in a working environment as a submissive and accommodating person who has no initiative to propose and generate, with his attitude, positive changes for the organization.
Meanwhile, at a relational or family level, it would shape the figure that gives priority to the emotions of others over its own, generating sooner or later a climate of repressed frustration and bitter discontent in the environment. to clarify a phrase to reflect on: positive emotional spaces require above all an investment in ourselves.
Human quality, combined with emotional maturity and self-affirmation, can put limits on the formation of any toxic environment, for example.
If all these dimensions already inhabit me originally, they will condition my behavior and therefore also the emotional climate, it must be understood that any enriching emotional environment will undoubtedly depend on the psychological profile of its inhabitants.
Our daily emotional spaces must be our favorite places, those where we can always be ourselves, where we know that we will respect our ideas, our values and our feelings, are demarcated places where relationships with those who are with us do not act as chains or bars, but as warm winds that fill our sails with hope, making us feel free and full of possibilities.
Therefore, it is not enough for them to love us, it is essential that people love us well and, for that, to create positive and generous emotional spaces, it is recommended to apply these simple strategies. We’ll think of each of them below.
Before we focus on the emotional state of those around us, let’s start with ourselves, what most affects emotional spaces is personal frustration, irritability or defensive attitude, so let’s delve into our emotions and learn to manage them before expressing our anger, anxiety. or needs in others.
Finally, not least, a main strategy to nurture any emotional space is how to take care of the smallest things, the most delicate details. Any wise look is attentive to these daily subtleties that must be shown out of consideration, gratitude or a “thank you for being there,” a” what would I do without you?”or” my favorite place is always by your side. “
We will take care of these aspects on a day-to-day life to create much happier environments.
Images courtesy of Vladimir Kush.