Emotional stagnation is not a passing state because it happens, we are in charge of opening the doors and, without any obstacle, we give you permission to stay, there are circumstances, moments and existences that help feed it, and none of us are exempt from experiencing this.
The problem is that we often refuse to admit and remain in such stagnation without measuring the consequences, people turn away from us, opportunities escape and sand between our fingers, joy evaporates and we become dark beings, the horizon disappears and the meaning of life goes away. Far.
“I don’t admit stagnation because what I like to know is, and it never ends” – Antonio Escohotado-
Motivation disappears. What we once love now seems ridiculous and pointless. We’d rather be alone. We close our hearts and decide to isolate ourselves so as not to disturb or be disturbed, and unknowingly, we end up buried in life, then we will see some stages of emotional stagnation and how to avoid falling into it.
In a state of routine, days differ very little, we take the same steps, we say the same words, we talk to the same people, we are so used to it that, even without realizing it, we are a constant repetition. we don’t want to get out of emotional stagnation even if we feel bad.
If we live with someone, things are no different, the time comes when the other, even with us for years, becomes a stranger, nor do you realize, or don’t care, if there is a change in your personality. Don’t share life in depth, in every way, it’s just one more habit.
The routine is able to end the desire to live. Nor is it about throwing away everything that has been built, but you have to give the opportunity of surprises, to discover this new world that can be found on the block every day. Changing the way you work (or any activity) is a good start.
The rest will come. If you’re surprised by the little things again, you’ll find that you don’t need excuses to smile again, just being ready to change and finish the routine will bring you new opportunities and help you grow.
One of the most harmful things is not wanting to leave the comfort zone, that apparent ideal state that meets our needs, however, this is nothing more than a big mistake, an illusion that prevents us from moving forward, for example, we do not. We feel identified with the work we do, but we stay there for fear of being out of work.
There are opportunities to start over, opportunities in other cities or countries, despite the perspective, we reject it and prefer to stay as usual, that is, not take risks, even if it means staying in an emotional stagnation, and all this to preserve mirror-like security.
Beyond clear objectives, it is essential to recognize that personal growth happens to pass from side to side, to be prepared to change and to understand that new experiences enrich, little by little we will find that balance that will allow us to face the challenges. , no matter how complex it is.
In this way, we will be able to withstand the anguish of difficult times, if we do not depend on our comfort zone, we will have the ability to recover from the falls, thus abandoning this tranquility that, even without feeling it, cancels out. us and it lowers us.
We lose our enthusiasm, it just motivates us and we even let others decide for us. Joy is not an option. Now we are absent and with a shadow of sadness in our eyes, we eat, we breathe, we sleep, we move more on reflection than on our own initiative, we do not see the colors that shape the world.
Our emotions are at the lowest level of sensitivity. Nothing and no one moves us and we see us spend our lives as if it were a train that we did not arrive on time, that was gone and that left us at the station, and if opportunities arise we will not be able to take advantage of them. Again, the train leaves; there’s nothing else to do.
Life is starting to pass faster and faster, although we know that only we are able to get out of this emotional stagnation, regaining the ability to be surprised is the key, as well as dreaming again. It would be great to look for and dream again, bring to the present this little girl that we all carry inside, it’s time to let her out.
Fantasy is not destined to rebuke reality, people who do not give up their dreams are capable of doing unthinkable things, it all begins by opening the doors of imagination and believing that anything is possible. The game, in the midst of the rigidity of a monotonous life, is a tool to recover.
Images courtesy of Sean Gadoury.