When we experience a very painful love breakup or have had several failed relationships, we may be lost, something like a stranded ship in the middle of the ocean, adrift and out of the way. For many people, the alternative to this situation is emotional. Tourism. An escape to come, no cure, no prior healing.
Separating from the person with which the different stages of life are crossed involves suffering by physical distance, but also by emotional separation, and the latter is precisely the most difficult to cure, because we tend to resist.
- After a breakup.
- Many people go through a long process of grief during which.
- Little by little.
- They come into contact with reality: the loss of a life partner.
- At first.
- They refuse to accept it.
- Later.
- Despair visits them and they may even experience symptoms of depression and anxiety.
The next step in the process is acceptance. The return to the real world and the assumption that illusions were mere utopias, it is time to rebuild and meet new people, at last if all goes well feels the feeling of overtaking, finally the person becomes able to objectively analyze the previous relationship and learn from the mistakes of the past.
Emotional tourism occurs in people who do not complete this process of bereavement out of fear or as a defense mechanism, rely on one of the steps and refuse to have a positive relationship in the future, choose to become insensitive and maintain interpersonal ties with others as a tourist pastime.
Emotional tourists jump from person to person, from place to place, door to door, aimlessly, just get carried away. They explore new sensations and define the the likes of true adventurers, seeking pleasure, joy and euphoria. They don’t feel the need to commit or take responsibility for the people they’re connected to.
Now, do not confuse these people with those who choose not to have a partner because they prefer to be single, emotional tourism is not the result of the decision to be single, but a behavior derived from emotional self-sabotage.
Emotional tourism plays unconsciously against the person’s desires, so while these sailors want to enter into a stable relationship with a new partner, they cannot because they have not yet faced the pain of their previous breakup.
They are rooted in the past, even if they pretend not to be, so they prefer to go from island to island, without stopping to think of any coast. So, if they find them? Summoned, don’t let love reign in your heart. Let that person escape and keep touring the world.
If you know them, they will certainly encourage you to follow their philosophy: “It is better to regret what we have done than what we have not. “Try your luck. Otherwise, don’t you know what could have happened?
Emotional tourists usually prefer one?See you later?They let you see that they can come back at any time, but also that they never will.
It is fickle. Today yes and tomorrow no. The emotional tourist comes and goes, their daily life is governed by instability, disorder and selfishness, those on the other side do not expect anything from them.
Emotional tourists are like those shooting stars that pass once and never reappear, intermittent in presence and feelings.
This behavior can be very dangerous psychologically. It is a daily way of life that can become addictive and addictive, in addition, if emotional tourism is assumed as a way of life, being on this constant tightrope generates an insecurity that can become pathological.
Emotional tourists enjoy new friendships and sporadic relationships as much as letting them go or breaking them, their relationships are rarely productive because they prefer to enjoy the trip, their life is based on the here and now.
However, sometimes it is convenient to leave the work bank and discover the world. Many people, after leaving a particularly harmful and lasting love situation, decide to travel to new places.
If you begin your emotional tourism journey and are aware that you are doing so to get rid of your pain, you will be able to navigate, get lost and meet without harming those around you. This trip is usually a great learning experience, as it becomes a well-developed and rewarding experience.
Most likely, these people aren’t aware of the emotional stress they’re experiencing, if they decide to listen to you, you may want to advise them to go to the psychologist or psychotherapist, only a specialist partner can help them make the necessary adjustments to normalize their lives.
In these cases, it is not a question of changing beliefs or values, but of helping to reorient the meaning of life and break the armor built as a mechanism to protect the corresponding affection.