The maternal figure is wrapped in a sacred halo in many cultures, apparently they give everything for the well-being of their children, and many expect a precise answer: that their children will adore them until the last of their days.
Some mothers may be very sensitive. Criticizing them can cause a huge wound on your motherly heart, disobeying them is a very serious affront, no matter how absurd their orders, and religion is also responsible for condemning this act as a mortal sin.
- This situation is particularly noticeable in Latin America.
- But it also occurs in other parts of the world.
- Where there is a strong idea that the family is an absolute value.
- But of course.
- Not all women have that character.
- Many mothers are healthy and willing to raise free and independent children.
- Unfortunately.
- There are also many cases in which the mother is abused.
Seen tangentially, the numbers say that the word “abuse” appears more frequently associated with parents and less with mothers. Men are at the top of the lists of physical and sexual violence; their psychological abuse is almost always linked to problems such as neglect or abuse.
In this context, mothers sometimes seem to be victims and other times the refuge of these abuses perpetuated by fathers, if we look closely at this reality, we can see that many of them also develop clear patterns of abuse, but they are composed of a series of manipulations, not always easy to detect.
You could say that a mother is emotionally violent when she uses her children to fill her own emotional gaps, when you think your children are not independent human beings, but exist to compensate for everything they have lost or had. That’s why, in addition to educating children to grow emotionally and psychologically, they take care of their individual development.
People raised by abusive mothers develop deep insecurity to live, feel anguish and abandonment. They have a hard time deciding things and are overwhelmed by thousands of inaccurate fears. They also develop strong feelings of guilt and generally don’t feel very appreciated.
There are several specific behaviors of mothers that can be classified as abusive, including:
? Use the threat as a measure to control your child’s behavior. Threat of beating, punishing or threatening in the form of eternal condemnation, how to surrender, with vengeance of fate, with sickness?
? Use force and imposition before dialogue and persuasion
? Use guilt repeatedly as a pressure instrument.
? Control conversations. He interrupts his child when he speaks and always wants to have the last word in an argument.
? They invade the privacy of their children and reject their friends. In general, they look in fear at anyone who has any emotional importance to their children. They are rivals who endanger his absolute reign. They have no problem engaging in conversations and demanding that I tell them. them all the details.
? He distrusts his children, underestimates them and criticizes them, seeks to nullify his self-esteem because he knows that self-love is the worst enemy, by eliminating any chance that your child will enjoy, you can make him dependent on her for the rest of his life.
? He does not explain his actions, does not apologize or acknowledge his mistakes. If his children object, he says, “It’s not done because it’s ugly” or “God wouldn’t forgive something like that,” but he never explains why. acknowledging his mistakes, he tries to justify himself.
? Part of the physical assault. Slapping the face is a form of aggression that symbolically destroys a person’s identity and expression; it doesn’t usually cause physical harm, but it does cause deep humiliation.
These and other signs alert mothers to psychological violence, with serious consequences for those with psychological violence, and do not think that this only happens to mothers of young children or adolescents, some adult children are also trapped in similar situations.