We are increasingly surprised by the behavior of children with their parents: disrespect, insults, raising their voices, among others. A kind of authority that goes from being with parents to children.
Looks like the roles are reversed. It is no longer the parents who set the rules and impose the punishments, but the children who have all the authority.
- “Educating a child doesn’t teach him something he didn’t know.
- But makes him someone who didn’t exist?-John Ruskin-.
Why this change? Since it was established that everything, “buttocks in the ass” or “ear pulls,” is considered abuse, parents have been afraid and children have seen an effective way to manipulate their parents.
This submission does not benefit our children, who grow up hostile to their own families and with the authoritarian belief that sooner or later they will send the bill.
Will a girl who has Emperor’s syndrome always choose what to eat, what others should do, when to go out, where will the family go on vacation, what to watch on TV?and others.
Why did this happen? Because these children have an underdeveloped empathy, that is, they are not able to experience the emotions and feelings of putting themselves in each other’s place.
If we don’t do what the authoritarian boy says and orders, we’ll have to put up with her tantrums, her tantrums and, in some cases, her assaults, and so she becomes a more than authoritarian girl, a dictator. It is very easy to distinguish a child who has the terrible “emperor syndrome”:
When we recognize all this, we sometimes wonder why we’re not doing anything to fix it, especially when you look from the outside. Many TV shows show this terrible behavior, why don’t parents act?Because they’re afraid, but mostly because they’ve allowed their own children to get to this point.
For reasons we do not know, there are parents who exercise a passive and very relaxed education that encourages children to become authoritarian sooner or later, which poses problems not only at home, but also in school, how can teachers deal with these authoritarian personalities?
Don’t these children know what respect, forgiveness is, they completely ignore their place. As a result, they become un goalsless stimulants in their lives, as well as having everyone at their mercy. Parents have chosen to passively educate their children, without measuring the consequences they will regret sooner or later.
We know that education is a difficult and complicated task that requires a lot of effort and energy that we sometimes don’t have or don’t want to have, however, when we decide to have children, that’s one of the first premises we accept. We take responsibility for educating them, which inevitably requires effort.
When we’re still kids, we think it’s time to solve this attitude that sometimes goes further. The problem is when adolescence comes and we find ourselves in a hurricane of conflicting attitudes that can lead to aggression. This step towards maturity is immersed in something, they consider “right. “However, they waste their time believing they enjoy life while wasting it.
That’s why it’s so important that as parents we strive to make our children also learn the value of effort and know that it’s important to be responsible and respectful of others.
Limits are necessary. We are people who will live together in this world and of which we must be proud, in any case, we cannot expect change.
Authoritarian children will suffer many falls until they learn, but they will never understand why no one raised them from the beginning.