Starting a relationship is opening a new chapter in the book of your life, this means learning from previous chapters to make the most of the new reading, but we can’t stick to previous chapters, like someone holding the handbrake, for fear of “what might happen. “
Sometimes we encounter very common problems when starting a new relationship. Depending on what the previous relationships were like, did we turn?More or less? Prudent: We groping in the darkness of the uncertainty of this new challenge that life presents to us.
- Far from being a spontaneous and natural act.
- Infatuation becomes a risky job.
- Fear takes hold of us with its strong hand.
- Whispers in our ears the future risks associated with past problems.
- And paralyzes spontaneity and pleasure.
- Drives them away and drives them away.
- In the background in a way totally unfair to us and to the person who has entered our lives.
Spontaneity, joy and tranquility are often overlooked in the search for a better life, hoping to be picked up at the place where we place them. Perhaps out of a terrible fear of repeating previous mistakes: fear of choosing wrong, not knowing how to correctly predict or interpret the signs.
Therefore, we need to give the past time to recover (when possible), to filter out all the learnings and lessons it has given us. When we change one relationship to another, we do not give you that rest that our hearts need to select and understand the experiences you have experienced.
“Those who do not remember the past are doomed to repeat it?George Santayana?”
We must give this time, especially in cases where the past relationship was toxic and harmful to us. We must be able to find a space in time to understand what this relationship wanted to teach us. Blaming the other for our responsibility never helps. That’s why it’s very important to talk to each other honestly and honestly.
When we learn the lessons of the past, the following chapters flow freely and without too many problems, so people appear in our lives in a more natural and less forced way, when your heart is calm and you have learned the lessons of the past, you are ready to embark on a new adventure in a healthy and free way.
“We should use the past as a trampoline, not a sofa. “Harold MacMillan?
The mistakes of the past will help us know how to choose a new person, of course we won’t want to go through everything that made us suffer again, so it’s very important to think about our responsibility for everything we’ve been through. Were it the injuries that made us choose some people and not others?
From this clean, pure and healthy place, we will be able to choose our new partner better, without dependencies or needs. I, complete and healthy to choose from, will choose someone who strengthens me, who brings light and peace through his presence.
Learning from the past is critical to “moving forward on the path of our lives. The uncertainty of whether everything will work is something we have to assume as part of our existence. However, a?I?the wisest will know how to choose and everything will be less painful.
We have to be careful and have some respect for what awaits us, but we also have to make room for life to surprise us with its unforeseen events, so close the previous chapters, learn your lessons and start a new chapter with enthusiasm and dedication. you can get who’s coming.