Anyone who has risked asking for my opinion on a relationship has certainly heard me say, “Do you have the same goals?You have to be careful, because even if it’s nice, in the end, the differences make all the difference. Write it down well, DO THE DIFFERENCES MAKE THE DIFFERENCE ?.
I dare advise, because working on good or evil in my life is a maxim from which I cannot escape, differences weigh heavily on a relationship. We made this fatal mistake of seeing the problems that can cause enormous strain on the relationship right away, but we insist on holding on in the hope that something might change, or worse, that we can change between ourselves or ourselves. !
- These can be the most subtle or cumbersome differences.
- If not handled well they erode the relationship.
- Sometimes gradually.
- Sometimes abruptly.
- But the thing is.
- I think differences make the difference.
You want to study, the other thinks so. He likes to travel, you do the simple kind. You are not without dinner, she prefers a snack. You prefer to camp in the forest, he prefers the beach. You want to know the world, you want the peace of a quiet and peaceful place. safe life. You like a sertanejo, call it sertanojo. His films are horror, hers, burlesque romance. One wants children, the other doesn’t even think. You sleep early, it’s morning. She wants to stretch out the day in bed, you have a routine to do, you live in Oiapoque, he lives in Chuo.
Shall we play a list? Better let him go, I think we can go to the Guinness Book so cool!The point is that a relationship that obviously involves the involvement between at least two people includes the union between people with common goals and interests, and I have to repeat it. : this is where differences make all the difference!
You may remember here when they say that “opposites attract”, “love supports everything”, etc. , etc. I do agree! And when I tell people to be careful about differences, it’s so they don’t get passionate or see their eyes in a relationship that they can’t see the differences and at least know how they’ll handle them, if you’re ready for the challenge.
Differences can be a big challenge in the relationship. That doesn’t mean we have to give up and find someone to live with is as simple as smearing hot bread with butter. Of course, if you find someone like that, bingo, love has a pennant written on your head?Am I DIFFERENT FROM YOU?
When differences make a difference, you will have important decisions to make. They will have to give in. Not just one side! There is always the most patient, tolerant and understanding person in the relationship, who will do everything possible to seek peace, but if she is the only one to give in, if she is the one who gives up much more frequently, over time the threads of the rope that unite you will break one by one, until the day it breaks. The mission must come from both parties, one from each, two from me and one from you, whatever, but both parties must see that they were ready to love someone different and therefore will have to give in to their will. to balance the relationship.
The differences will appear and you will need to HAVE A LOT OF EMPATHY, put yourself in each other’s shoes, feel like the other, live their life and routine, understand why they have a hard time living in your world and vice versa, be ready to understand how your mind and heart work and always talk about how they feel. Silence prevents us from saying stupid things, but too much silence creates nonsense in the mind and heart.
Respect. I suppose that although there are differences, if people choose to identify themselves, there are also similarities, common goals, a determining factor in the success of the relationship is that they both move in the same direction, therefore, if two people love each other and we want to get to the same place (together), respect will be fundamental when differences arise, no matter if you don’t act like this , if you think differently, if you feel different, respect. Put your way of seeing things (with love and respect) without imposing yourself in each other’s lives.
When you weigh the differences, ask yourself: Why do I love this person ?, Why is it worth bearing the difficulties that our differences offer to our life ?, What similarities do we have, what makes me want to share my life with this person?
I have read many times that a relationship should be light and good, who will not agree?But what I see are problematic relationships. I know very few people (I don’t really think I know anyone, hehe) who can say they have the dream relationship, butter on hot bread. That is why I believe that the proportion of relationships that The end is so great, because we seek light and tranquility and do not prepare for differences.
Differences make all the difference, yes, gentlemen! And if you are not open-minded, open-minded, willing to give in, lack of empathy, respect and are well resolved in yourself on the reasons for loving this person, the relationship can become very difficult, tidy and fatal.
However, for these willing souls and hearts, there will always be a light that guides things so that both sides can face their challenges, because the feeling and desire to be together must prevail. My sister has always said you have to eat a bag of salt with the other person to know what it’s like to hold on. If you want to understand this analogy, take a teaspoon full of salt and eat it. Put it in a bag and eat with your partner, if you don’t have patience, perseverance and don’t lean on it?
But if you want, if it’s love for your life, if life is this person so different from you, but much worse when it’s not, surrender, respect, put yourself on the other side, remember your reasons for loving this person and learn to love differences.
And don’t think it’s going to be easy! But surely it will be rewarding and I dare say, an even stronger love that butter loves hot bread, because it will be a love that will have learned to endure difficulties and stay, while many prefer to leave.