Even if you close your eyes you will feel it with your heart, remember that there is no one blinder than the one who does not want to see, this does not mean that pain, sadness or anguish disappear magically, does not mean that closing the eyes is enough. It’s not about snapping your fingers and changing everything. He begins to accept that what hurts us exists and learns to face it.
Even if it scares you, even if you think you’re going to feel the greatest fear of your life, usually nothing is as bad as we think. One of our greatest monsters is our catastrophic thinking (the one that some feed because they think they are protecting the the most from disappointment) and against our greatest monsters, we only have the courage to face them.
- But how am I going to deal with what I fear most?Step by step.
- The first step is to admit our own internal war.
- Which denies everything that makes us suffer.
- The one that keeps repeating that nothing bad even happens.
- When we scream inside.
- Then.
- Once the discomfort is admitted.
- We will reveal our greatest fears.
- With them unmasked.
- You can choose the best weapons to face them.
The world is a hostile place for all, but only those who face it without fear live their lives to the fullest.
At first you will feel the weight of the world on your back or you will feel that everything around you disappears, but you will understand that you only have to name the panic or depression that nests in you, once things have a name, the fears disappear because it knows what is going on and can ask for help to deal with what it considers a threat.
“Fearing a name only increases the fear of the thing itself. -J. K. Rowling-
Naming what you feel doesn’t mean reducing your reality to the few details that fit a label, nor will it be a valid excuse to hide every time you’re wrong or a complete definition of yourself. a part, a small part that makes you, but doesn’t define you because you’re so much more than that.
Putting a name does not mean forgetting the context in which the problem arises, the support you have and your own resources, is a way of simply delineating a set of emotions, thoughts and behaviors that would otherwise be more complicated to understand.
However, simplifying does not mean forgetting that behind every name, every fear, of every monster, there is a person with his own singularities, a person who suffers and who is also courageous, a person who, first of all, needs support and understanding.
“I don’t like who you are, but in what you can become. -Miguel de Cervantes-
Don’t waste your time denying reality. Think, what’s the worst thing that can happen to you if you decide to admit what’s going on, what’s the worst that can happen if you stop avoiding life’s experiences?On the horizon, to answer these questions, a possibility appears: you will simply start living. with all the intensity.
It will be then that a world full of possibilities, good and bad, will open before you. This will allow you to know yourself at all levels, accept you unconditionally. But the most important thing is that it will make you look stronger than you imagined.
“Growth begins when we begin to accept our own weaknesses. -Jean Vanier-
You will be afraid, but you will have a thousand and one weapons to face, you will feel pain, but you will also feel the love and affection of all those around you with the utmost intensity and you will realize that the dictatorship that you impose on yourself pretending to live a painless life is what hurts you the most?and it’s bad because it denies part of your reality.
Remember that the one who feels the least is the happiest, but the one who best recognizes and accepts his emotions, is in your hands to live or hide, it is in your hands to accept what you feel and face. The result, always full of hope. Your own hope, so you can share it and infect whoever you want with your heart.