Even the strongest personality is tired of being mistreated, boycotted and manipulated. Because the strong heart is not a cold heart, let alone immune to evil and affection with hidden motives. We all have limits; however, the personalities used to “resisting” are the ones who suffer the most, the ones that take the longest to react.
One thing that is often misunderstood is that the emotionally strong person is someone who knows how to control their feelings. Today, despite the ease with which we handle the terms associated with “emotional intelligence,” we still maintain misconceptions, such as thinking that emotions, for example, are the opposite of reason.
- Imagining a strong heart.
- One sees almost instantly a person entrenched behind solid armor.
- Someone who keeps his head cool and his gaze fixed to control this complex.
- Sometimes painful and demanding world.
- Which is the universe of emotions and feelings.
- However.
- Strong personality does not always present this type of psychological architecture.
Resistance or emotional strength often responds to a person’s personal commitment to others. It is to stand firm to help when others fall, always trying to be useful, close. They are profiles that rise like the mast of a ship on a stormy night, are the Pillars on which everyone rests, the rock where everyone set foot to cross rivers?
They look strong, until the day they separate or get tired, we suggest you think about it.
Often, when a person goes to therapy for help, the first thing he expresses is his tiredness, he feels a exhaustion that he had never experienced before, he feels overwhelmed, exasperated and with the clear feeling of having reached the limit of his forces. His medical examinations reveal no health problems, however, they have lost “his vital breath. “
What needs to be clarified about psychological intervention or psychotherapy is that not only do people with unstable personalities request it, not just profiles with clinical needs or patients who need appropriate strategies to manage their emotions and problems.
Sometimes people arrive aware that their stress level has exceeded them, they are up to date with different coping mechanisms, they know mindfulness and other tools that they have tried to apply without benefiting from it, their ability to perform and personal care has been so diluted by tiredness that they are not recognized in the mirror, but I was a very strong person!What happened to me?
What happened was that your brain said ‘enough’, when we go a little further in their personal realities, we always discover the great excess of responsibility they carry on their shoulders, on their hearts, in fact, more than strong people, they are personalities accustomed to practicing extreme and unhygienic resistances, where there is no self-protection.
They are women and men accustomed to silencing their needs to appear strong and thus be that constant and lasting light for others, yet what they often receive in return is bitterness, selfishness and loneliness.
Let’s visualize a rug for a while. The person who needs to be strong has become accustomed to maintaining a very high pace in terms of speed and demands in her life, she is proud of herself, her heart is very strong and she believes that she will maintain that rhythm throughout her life.
However, sooner or later the cramps, pain and tiredness arrive, the tape continues to move with the same intensity, the people around you continue with the same level of demand and demand without seeing the bad condition of your colleague, family member, partner or friend. However, our protagonist has reached the limit and does not know how to stop this sle, this destructive spiral.
What should we do in this case?Slow down, reduce the intensity?Absolutely, the most appropriate thing in this situation is to stop: our heart needs to recover.
You don’t need a break or a stop along the way, you need to be strong on your own and not just for others, and for that you need to make changes, focus on the vital and everyday crossroads in a more harmonious, coherent and healthy way. .
Take a few seconds to think about the following proposals
Remember that you are not a hero, your job is not to make the impossible possible, you are not a sorcerer or bridge architect from a place where there are no banks, nor can you save the impossible or give happiness to those who do not. Know what joy, respect, or reciprocity is.
Learn to take care of yourself emotionally, learn to be strong on your own as well.
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