Even with a broken heart, I will find meaning in this experience. I’ll keep walking. I’ll feel sadness when I need it, I’ll cry when my body needs to cry. I will share it with anyone who can appreciate how I feel, not with those who do not want to listen to me, not with those who do not want to receive me.
I will respect myself enough to share my pain with people who appreciate me and do me good. I’ll be strong enough to make that distinction. Because this experience I am immersed in is so mine and so intimate that I no longer want to add insignificant pain, but I want to find a sense of this experience.
- You may be able to identify yourself by reading these words.
- Maybe someone broke your heart for the first time.
- Or maybe once on a list of occasions.
- Or maybe your heart just breaks with people who were very important to you.
- Wherever you are.
People face love disappointments in very different ways, they do so based on their expectations of the relationship, where they placed that person in their lives, the image they have built of themselves and the depth of the relationship itself. make sense or relieve the pain that hurts inside.
When we can see the mechanisms that have been activated in our relationships, our vision becomes clearer, less blurry, for example, you can be one of those people who idealizes the other who has just met you. Fill? Or? Light?As if it were an empty plant, adorning it in the exercise of representation with characteristics and virtues that do not correspond to it, which are not its own.
We often put in the other what we want to see in him, and if we don’t see him at first sight, we will look for evidence to confirm that this person is wonderful and special. We have become experts in the art of makeup. We put on and pull out pieces like a toy.
Sometimes, although we show that the reality is very different, it is the dependence of the person who takes the reins of the relationship and leads us adrift. It doesn’t matter if he’s not the person I imagined. ” I can’t live without her. “And here’s the fear and loneliness that reigns today, until we want it and we can open our eyes and get out of this labyrinth we enter.
For all this, it is important that we can see with truth and without making mistake all these mechanisms that have made us stay with people we did not deserve or who have fallen into the same kind of relationship on several occasions. Working in a relationship, we can make sense of this painful experience. We can better understand how our broken heart broke.
Identifying the forces that have broken our hearts, however painful, will give us the opportunity to undo them in future relationships, so that they stop causing pain.
The period that begins at the end of a romantic relationship (or an ephemeral and un shared passion) is too fruitful to learn more about ourselves, without sale, only then can we assume and extract the juice from our mistakes, shape its causes and its disastrous consequences. We can’t spend our lives blaming someone else: it’s as easy as it is unproductive.
We all have a responsibility in a relationship. The important thing is to take responsibility for yours and know how to get out if necessary, if we trampl on our self-esteem to adapt to the other person in our lives, we will not have a healthy relationship. priority of our existence, we have before us one of the most powerful warning signs. We’ll have to do something.
So be honest with yourself and always try to make sense of these painful experiences, for a broken heart, look for a meaning that will help you better understand and not repeat your mistakes, once you have acquired this learning you will be wiser, stronger and I hope that the next relationship will not break will be greater.