The work is over, love is over, existence is over, because sooner or later it’s all over. Everything in life is transient, and believing that things are “eternal” often causes frustrations that are hard to overcome.
Knowing how to end things or different aspects of our lives doesn’t go well is sensible and emotionally healthy, forcing a situation that ends up surviving is like crying over spilled milk.
- ?? Nothing lasts forever: neither the starry night.
- Nor the misfortunes.
- Nor the riches; Will all this ever end?.
-S-funcles-
What happens in the broader spheres of life (dreams, intellect, love, etc. ) also happens in smaller spheres (material goods, beauty, fame); everything has an end. Both big and small, because everything in this life is “borrowed”.
Even material objects fill their life cycle and often cause discouragement and even anger, contrary to what we feel when they are new and newly acquired, because we believe that they are eternal and part of our lives as if they were an extension of our bodies.
When you undergo plastic surgery to disguise old age or exercise, not for health, but to stay young, you fall into the fantasy of impossible dreams and desires.
To try to improve our physical appearance (in some cases it is possible), what we do is basically deteriorate our dignity and our human condition. Shall we become one? Produced? To satisfy others.
If there is one thing that can be more lasting, but not eternal, it is these intangible and profound realities, good or bad impressions, the memories we leave engraved in the lives of others: what we write every day in the book of our lives and in the book of the lives of others.
We often complain or reject a person or certain situations, until they leave or die, and until those negative situations get worse, it is this comparison that gives us a real view of what makes us suffer and the intensity of our suffering.
For example, when you complain a lot about your partner and find yourself alone, you start valuing that person in every detail; or when you move from a more humble house to a better place, but without that family atmosphere. Also, when you complain about a simple flu like it’s a tragedy, until you get seriously sick and realize it was stupid.
Most of the time everything that starts has an aura of novelty and is full of promises, but over time we start to see more flaws than virtues, both in objects and in people and situations, then, when it all ends, quite the opposite. happens: we focus more on virtues and minimize defects. The problem is that it happens when there is nothing left to do; It’s over.
When we accept that everything that begins has to end, we will live better, it is not about immersing ourselves in despair or cynicism, but of knowing that there is a time to say goodbye and face suffering.
Knowing how to face suffering will allow us to heal the wounds that a loss leaves in our life. Running away is not the most appropriate solution. For example, in the case of a loss of love, they say “one love heals with another love”, but we cannot forget a person overnight; it takes time and willpower.
Loss and mourning are a constant in our lives, throughout our existence we will have to say goodbye several times: of loved ones, situations or objects, everything is temporary, nothing lasts forever, not even one’s life, we all know it, yet we project another reality and believe in the fantasy of eternity.
Not being able to let go or say goodbye can be very problematic, it’s still not healthy not to get involved in anything or anyone for fear of losing, maybe if we learn to see more naturally the fact that it’s all over we can enjoy everything. around us, here and now, instead of valuing everything when it’s over.