Many of the most extraordinary moments of our lives are shared moments, they are pieces of magical complicity with extraordinary people, with childhood friends or new friends, with family, with summer loves or lifelong loves. They have been, are and will be To be happy moments for which we are grateful and which, in turn, give us strength in difficult times.
If we put before us every moment of our existence frame by frame, there are more likely to be several scenes with this particular brightness: that of joy, that of well-being and the subtle balance in which, suddenly, life itself enters the scene. Harmony, far from regretting that these moments of absolute perfection do not happen more often, all you have to do is thank them, thank you for living these moments.
“It is not time that gives them, but the moment. At some point, do we have to save time?
Since Martin Seligman focused his work in the late 1990s on the study of depression or vulnerability learned in the field of happiness, millions of books have been written to teach us to “be happy. “They explain exactly how to build these extraordinary experiences by being skilled in our decision-making process and becoming the architects of this joy, this personal confidence to shape a daily life more compatible with our personal needs.
However, from that time to day, Seligman’s positive psychology has been the subject of much criticism. In fact, renowned psychiatrists and social psychologists like Jerome Wakefield of New York University argue that today there is such an obsession with “happiness,” that we simply forget to learn to tolerate or deal with sadness.
Do we forget that happiness, in fact, are moments, fragments of precious time that come and go like gleaming soap bubbles that explode and disappear?But it leaves that smile of satisfaction on our faces, that breath of hope with which to remember our own memories from time to time to feel children again.
Let us close our eyes for a moment and ask our memory to transport us back in time to a happy moment, in just over a second we will be in a childhood game with our companions, or in the pool with our brothers, while the smell of chlorine and freshly cut grass returns to us. We can also meet our grandparents, walking around, listening to their stories as they take us by the hand as we leave school.
Memory prefers childhood memories, but can these moments of happiness also take the form of a affection under the table, a sunrise with the couple lying on the same pillow, or even?And why not, this trip with the usual friends.
These shared moments, woven with the golden thread of emotions, complicity and affection, are in themselves a unique jewel in our most intimate memory, in our personal history. It is “lived life”, rooms in which we feel more realized than ever.
Sonia Lyubomirsky, professor of psychology at the University of California and better known as the “Happiness Scientist,” explains that to be happy it takes some work, some commitment, but if we invest time and effort in doing so, we’ll give ourselves that can be a lot of fun.
The reason? One way to do this is to learn to communicate with people. Having friends, for example, building meaningful personal relationships is a great way to create magical moments more often. Sometimes it’s enough to have coffee with someone to build a moment of love. magical and cathartic complicity.
Beyond what these frequently used phrases can say, as happiness is on our doorstep or good times happen when we least expect it, there are certain aspects to consider: without a positive attitude, without openness, without the ability to connect, to observe, without self-esteem or self-confidence, we will certainly find many doors closed. To create extraordinary moments, it is necessary to apply appropriate filters in our daily life with which we can better enjoy life.
“The memory is the smell of the soul. ” -George Sand-
The first strategy is undoubtedly to know how to focus the things that matter, to be aware of what is essential in our hearts and what is essential in our hearts is what will allow us to invest time, effort and energy in these essential dimensions.
The second step is kindness. Extraordinary moments often arise when you do something for someone or when someone else does something for you, when you share things and moments with your heart because there is affection, the most sincere of affections, are moments without selfishness or special interests.
The third strategy is our ability to connect with the present moment, with what is happening in our country here and now, because we have to keep one thing in mind: happiness is not programmed, so don’t let the happiness you can feel today for tomorrow.
The last strategy has to do with gratitude, we must understand that happiness, as we observe at the beginning, comes and goes, those magical moments do not last forever. So while we enjoy these moments, we recommend thank you, thank you for the people around you, thank you for being able to live this experience that helps you grow as a person, give your best and feel worthy and worthy of positive Emotions
So don’t hesitate to create extraordinary moments whenever possible?