“Where there is no love, do not delay. ” Eleonora Duse–
Do we have a hard time saying goodbye, finishing it and moving on, in the different sectors of our lives, as if we were avoiding the responsibility of having to endure the pain that comes from saying goodbye, as if the fact is done, which is wrong because, often, permanence brings illusory security. And that’s why we pay a high price for our cowardice and our claims to no one but ourselves.
- The paths that await us are intermingled with forks and pitfalls and.
- Without us noticing.
- We are often led to choose alternatives that are easier to accommodate.
Being comfortable, however, can also mean passivity and conformity, because feelings of sealing do not push us to the changes necessary for our development as people. Too much conformity can cost us a distance from another truth?the dishonesty of our will and a growing sorrow, detrimental to both our well-being and the harmony with those at our side.
We must say goodbye to the love that has ceased to speed up our hearts, that no longer smiles when he sees us, that he does not take his hand, that he does not walk beside us, does not ask us if we sleep well, if we have lunch, or why the tears were suspended in our distant eyes. We must say goodbye to love that betrays and hurts, which is no longer love, friendship, exchange or complicity, nor comfort and necessity.
Say goodbye to friendship that is no longer necessary, that no longer has time to listen and encourage, that no longer appears in search of advice, nor does it want to know your life, we must say goodbye to friendships that do not add up, that despise us. , to change us easily, to use our secrets against us, to draw our carpets, to exhaust our energies.
We must say goodbye to the work that impoverishes us, feeds our emotional misery, prevents us from smiling, does not offer us opportunities, harasses us morally, does not listen to us, we must say goodbye to inhuman bosses, hypocritical colleagues, grumpy journeys. , to the greed of coffee, to the cries and mistakes underlined, to the veiled humiliation, to the stagnation that nullifies our capabilities, to the veering cordiality at the table next door.
Whoever crosses our limits, who accuses us of loving us, makes it difficult for us to walk and no longer understands what we are saying. You have to say goodbye to the room without privacy, from the always-on TV, from the sister’s borrowed clothes, from copying the keys to the door, from the uninterrupted consultation of the clock in the fun afternoons.
We must say goodbye to the hope that the other will change, waiting in vain for the call, the answer that never arrives, the invitation that is never heard, the “Do I love you?”Never said, the undivided embrace, the look that does not penetrate deeply, the recognition never received. We must say goodbye to those who hurt us, in body and soul, from those who annoy us, from insults, from sleepless nights, from the violence of others, from the desire for the end of the day, by the end of the day.
Farewell to the suffocation of desires, contained rage, swallowed insults, road diversions, unfuleed projects, dreams that do not awaken, death in life, we must say goodbye to the clothes that no longer serve us, the CDs we do not listen to, the letters we do not even read, the memories that hurt us, the photos aged in time , the shadow of infidelity, the obligations we create ourselves and not ourselves, leads to nothing.
Let us not stay in places where we do not feel alive, loved, where we do not breathe well, where we cannot be sincere, detachment is difficult because it requires courageously facing what we have done with our lives, what we are and feel. , and facing bad decisions leads us to pain and guilt, in addition, when we break with what seems established in our path, we also ruin the lives that accompany us and we will have to wage an arduous battle, until we are understood or not.
The important thing is that we act in search of our happiness, going to find our place in the world and in someone’s life, no one can be condemned for trying to be happy when they do it ethically and sincerely, without disrespecting themselves or anyone else. Those who truly love us will finally understand the need for our attitude, who support our success, wherever we are and with whom we are.
Our survival depends on the farewell of illusions, the courage to begin the necessary goodbyes, knowing that the infinite possibilities that will open from there will compensate for the losses along the way No one has to accept with resignation and conformity what they can?And should I? After all, we all have the right to live and breathe relieved, with the certainty that what we left behind was exactly where it was supposed to be: far behind, far away, powerless about our lives and our pursuit of happiness.