Sometimes fear disguises itself as logic so as not to show the real reason to avoid certain difficult situations: fear of the unknown. Feelings of uncertainty and past expectations can paralyze us. They can even lead us to avoid the situations needed to grow. But only by being exposed to it can we understand that fear brings opportunities.
In addition, managing fear brings some pleasure and reduces the chances of having anxiety-related disorders, because no one likes to be afraid, but if we understand and control it, we will feel a sense of relief after tension, we will prevent it. to affect our own health and we will discover a new way to continue to grow personally.
- Let us not forget that many of the situations that have paralyzed us in the past.
- Now we face them without blinking.
- Evidence.
- Public speaking.
- Relationship with others.
- Etc.
- Behind each of them there was always a reason that led us to realize.
- Them despite the evasive and overwhelming thoughts that arose in new or stressful situations: our own capacity for evolution and personal growth.
- Let’s take a closer look at this.
“Fear is always willing to see things worse than they really are. Titus Livio-
Why do we feel inappropriate emotions in new situations? The reason is that, right now, the body is trying to defend itself. In the face of feelings of uncertainty and fear, your answer is to prepare immediately for flight as a means of salvation. , on a physical level, there is a lack of blood flow in the upper body so the blood is directed to the lower limbs to facilitate a quick evacuation, so our first reaction to such situations is escape or flight. .
Even if the first natural reaction is to avoid such situations, the ability we have of ourselves and our own thoughts gives us greater scope to make more rational and less intuitive decisions, and it is in this gap that we discover that fear brings opportunities. and we started to access them.
Therefore, the fear of failure in the face of new challenges is something intuitive, which gives us a phylogenetic legacy of our ancestors, but the desire to achieve our own goals is something more personal that hides in each of our thoughts and emotions. this struggle between genetics and what we think is what will guide our decisions towards success or failure and ultimately towards the realization of our dreams or not.
Don’t be afraid of jail, poverty or death, be afraid of fear
They say that if we want something we have to do it, but why are we more afraid of the things we love most? sometimes we just take a step back because we prefer to keep one of the expectations unattainable to continue fantasizing about what. It would happen if we could achieve what we really want. At other times, the fear and effort necessary to pursue our happiness are stronger than our dreams and do we prefer to live in a state unchanged with ourselves, without great surprises?
The key is to know that the more we do, the more we can do, this is the circle in which we must enter if we want to overcome fear all the time to get what we really want, fear is just an emotion that, once understood, leads us to understand that it is useful in a very limited range of situations and that we will experience it very rarely in life.
Most of the fears we experience are irrational concerns and thoughts that the sooner we start identifying and overcoming them, the sooner we will start enjoying the things that are really worthwhile, because fear offers opportunities to know and continue to grow and overcome our own mental barriers.
“Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to live. -Soren Kierkegaard-