Doesn’t existence support representatives? Jorge Bucay
There are people who are afraid of being independent and who unconsciously want to be cared for, cared for and pampered by others.
- First described by Colette Dowling.
- The Cinderella Complex is based on the idea of femininity portrayed in this story.
- Cinderella is a beautiful.
- Elegant.
- Educated and hard-working woman who is criticized and exploited by her sisters and stepmother.
However, Cinderella cannot change her situation by herself, so she must be helped by an outside force, in this case the prince.
You probably think this scenario is repeated in classic fairy tales and disney in particular. Unfortunately, that’s true.
Although we have overcome many taboos of the past, we still keep in the collective spirit a remnant of this inferiority complex, which makes us wait for the “prince of blue blood”, someone who will take care of us, protect us and bring security.
As a result, we have grown indoctrinated by an education that approves of women’s submission and dependence to such an extent that it limits their autonomy and ability to feel valuable.
So it seems that we live in a world full of dangers and that we must be protected all the time, a world that encourages people to repress the and live while they wait for something or someone to stop their lives.
People often fantasize about a ransom or, to put it another way, with a greeting. If you gallop and you have blue blood, it’s even better.
Since childhood, any change is expected to be abhorrent and difficult to do anything on your own.
However, the Cinderella complex is not reserved for women, because, as we all know, it is also very present in men.
It is still possible to use the Cinderella Complex as an excuse for an insubstantial femininity of “porcelain dolls”. There are many men who expect someone to save them, do something for them and for their well-being.
Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what gender; there are many people who are afraid of independence and no one shows them the tools to face it.
I learned that courage is not the absence of fear, but triumph over it. The brave one is not the one who is not afraid, but the one who overcomes this fear.
Nelson Mandela
The truth is that we tend too often and too quickly to lose our identity, we tend to be independent people, with goals and interests, until we start a relationship.
When we start a new romance, we usually abandon what defines us and begin to see the world from a different perspective, diminishing our individuality.
This most often occurs in women; we stop being true to ourselves and forget to fly.
Being independent is ideal because it allows you to make your own decisions and pursue your own goals. We should always keep in mind that we create the need to be inside a cage.
So what does your happiness and destiny depend on? The responsibility is yours. Every morning, when you open your eyes, think about whether you want to live your day sadly or if you prefer to refresh your emotions and make them your servants.
The key is to stop comparing, growing and believing in ourselves and in how we feel, the emotional limits that you define in your life depend exclusively on you.
Featured image Larissa Kulik