When we have failed several times throughout our lives, the fear of failure reappears. With this fear, do we live avoiding failure situations, moving away from our projects and our dreams?We are overwhelmed by a sense of failure and frustration We feel ‘failed and frustrated’. So much effort, for what, if I’m going to fail again, why try again?
Are we stuck and abandoned with these feelings? We try to be strong in the face of adversity in life, we try not to talk about it again, we try never to be close to failure again?But it’s a difficult and painful option.
- It seems that life and people often remind us again of failure.
- Tell us.
- And ask us the question: “Why don’t you let me forget and turn the page once and for all?”.
Is our reaction to pain, suffering, anger and revolt?”Now that I started living without thinking about it and it was fine. “
But was it really?He
Other times, I just tried to make the effort to forget it, to hide it, to cover it up, to stop thinking about it, without achieving it at all. Emotional pain is like a wound in our physical body; If we don’t cure him, can it be closed and healed superficially?and it is likely that inside ‘it is infected’, so any inclination will hurt us, which means that we will be very sensitive to the subject in question, and therefore that the “pest is not well healed”.
Frustration is an emotion that makes us avoid what will make us suffer, if we fail and feel frustrated we will probably avoid this pain again, failure is the failed attempt and it hurts us, but it is not always so.
Let us think of situations and projects that have not been conquered and that have not made us suffer either, what makes them different?When there is something we have not achieved, but we know that we have more options and that we can go the other way, it will be a failure, but we will not feel stranded or frustrated, if we accept that this was not possible. , we will learn from this experience and be sad that we have not achieved our goals, but we will not suffer.
We will continue to explore ways to achieve our goals, including being more motivated to move forward.
When we felt defeated it’s because we thought there was only one chance to win. Thus, fear invades us: “I am a loser”, “I will never make it”, “I must resign myself to this congested life”. We’ll avoid contacting the next bug again and stop trying.
Thus, every time we fail in our attempts, we must analyze the different ways of accomplishing our projects and our dreams, there is never one. Thus, failure will only be an explored path, with which we will learn, among other things, that we have much more to discover, in this way fear will not appear, will we not avoid walking, fighting, exploring?we’re going to move on.
It works like this: even if we have not succeeded, we will be proud of ourselves, because we will not stop pursuing our desires, and with each step we will have grown and new opportunities will have opened up, we will have reached unexpected destinations, sometimes more interesting than the goal that brought us there, life will never cease to amaze us and offer us opportunities, whenever we want to continue walking , to continue to seek our happiness.
Photo courtesy of Sergey Nivens.