Being accepted by others is an instinctive and profound need, human beings are sociable by nature, willing to interact in interest groups and saddened by their marginalization, when we are excluded a millennial alert is activated deep within our brains. Know that if we are alone, we are more vulnerable to any imminent danger. Hence the fear of swimming against the current.
Hence the risky tendency to reach the masses without prior thought; initially, it is frightening to be excluded from the dynamics in which others participate; it is as if this is the announcement that we can fall into isolation and therefore be subjected to more powerful risks than we do.
“Thinking against time is heroic; not to say crazy. ?? Eugene Ionesco-
What is troubling about this fact is that there are times when the great social current goes against the reasonable and the desirable, the most obvious example, always mentioned, is that of Nazism, many have joined this sick and inhuman movement simply out of fear. They were all going in the same direction and, as absurd as it was, for many it was better to follow this current than to resist.
This is not only true in the great historical facts. There are also a myriad of everyday situations to which the same pattern can be applied, such as during school violence or bullying, although many know that this behavior is reprehensible, silent, or joins aggressors only to avoid swimming against the prevailing current. Is there any way to avoid it?
In a way, we’re all driven to create a character that represents us socially, it means that someone tells us how we should be since we were born, what we should or shouldn’t do, how we should behave, doesn’t always match. , or rather often, exactly what we want to be or do.
To get into society and culture, we have to “pretend” a little bit. We have to respect the lines, even if we don’t want to, or learn to eat with towels, even if it seems useless or very complicated, that’s the price we have to pay to be accepted into a certain social group. why, in part, when we’re in society, we represent one or more characters.
Why do we end up accepting these rules of the game? Simply because if we do not, we receive in return a rejection or disapproval, others are unwilling to accept that we do what they want and generally show a subtle and powerful resistance to any position other than that advocated by the group.
They impose limits that are not always explained or understood, at first we learn to behave according to the rules of others, because we are afraid of the suffering that may result from not doing so.
Some people have never had the opportunity to overcome the childhood stage, when we are children, adults rule. You get used to obeying, usually not knowing why. Good and evil are transmitted as the only truth, in our opinion, that counts very little.
Growing up means understanding which rules, limits, and restrictions, it also means deciding to what extent that corresponds or not to our will and then acting accordingly. To achieve all this, we must have lost the fear of thinking for ourselves. Let’s explore who we are, no matter what character we learn to represent.
Recognizing ourselves as adults, we also discover that we have the resources to oppose what we disagree with and swim against the current, but of course we must first know what we agree on. us the strength to go against the current if necessary.
Unfortunately, the process is not always complete. Sometimes the person chooses not to grow, it is a difficult work, which requires not only effort and repetition, but also courage, not everyone is willing to walk the path between built character and the real, not everyone wants to face the fear that exists when one becomes able to be oneself. Those who succeed gain freedom. They also have the opportunity to schedule their destiny, the measure of reality that emerges for them.
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