Fear, sadness and frustration. It would not be a mistake to say that it is the three emotions that fill many of our hours of lockdown in front of the window, to reflect on the sofa and in those moments of hyperactivity where we try to do whatever it takes not to think. There are three completely normal mental states that, curiously, un bring us together as humanity.
Experts used to claim that the large amount of happiness-based self-help literature had made people intolerant to negative emotions, according to them, this kind of reading taught us to be happy, but he forgot to tell us what to do when the veil of anguish rose.
- However.
- In fact.
- The human being has always known very well what these most adverse emotional states are like and each treats them in his own way.
- Good or bad.
Suffering is not new to us, but this time it was different and took us by surprise, each person lives this moment in a particular way.
There are those who feel luckier to have their family close to them in good health and with the possibility of great professional stability; others, on the other hand, find themselves in a more unfavourable scenario, in which losses and the abyss of uncertainty in relation to the future is present.
Wherever we are and whatever our situation, we all feel fear, worry, and sadness more than once.
Coronavirus leaves immeasurable gaps in suffering and it is impossible to ignore this reality.
Life has reached a chapter in which history has taken on a surreal and terrifying tone, it seems that this part of our life cycle was created by a bad writer, but in fact thinking about it leads us to believe that we have no control. about what’s going on.
We need to understand one thing: we cannot control the circumstances in which we live, but we can control our reactions and behaviors.
How we do this will define a better adaptation for the next few days. The key words we need to integrate today are acceptance, transformation, and resilience.
As Abraham Maslow, a renowned humanist psychologist, has said, life is a process of continuous growth and this task is often painful, there are times when this suffering is more intense and the level of demand we feel is higher. .
A first step is to face and understand this inner emotional universe. Again, we must not forget that our brain does not speak English, Spanish or Chinese, the brain speaks the language of emotions and we need to understand them.
Thus, during this period of confinement, three emotions will be our companions at home: fear, sadness and frustration.
Stand guard at the door of your fears. Suppose that it is normal to feel them, that it is allowed to be afraid of what is happening, of what we see and of what surrounds us, but, of course, do not let this door get bigger than it really is, allowing thoughts Irrational Than Fuel Panic In short, don’t leave room for what hasn’t happened yet.
Focus, rationalize, and talk to someone you trust when you feel your fears take your breath away.
In psychology there is a mechanism called availability bias that is interesting to consider, often when we live situations full of uncertainty and fear, we consider it true and we give power to those closest to us: the fake news we read, the sad messages they sent us, a thought that we have just had and that is totally unfounded.
Remember that when your brain is afraid, stop reasoning logically and balancedly, it immerses itself in the most dangerous emotion, fear, then take control.
Fear, sadness and frustration? These emotions have a meaning and purpose in themselves, and they also have it during detention. The best strategy is to accept them, but avoid giving them too much power so they don’t end up in full control.
In this case, sadness functions as a mental attic, where it is advisable to go from time to time, this emotion is full of meaning, it is a chest that must be opened for us to discover what you are trying to tell us. In the circumstances in which we live, it is normal and advisable to dedicate time to it.
We feel the pain of those who have left. We suffer for others, we care about what may happen tomorrow, we keep thinking about our family, we are afraid that our parents will get sick, we are sad about the reality that our children are going through, assuming all these internal realities is necessary.
We must not obsess over the idea of ‘always being 100%’, because it is totally impossible, we have to allow ourselves these moments.
Between fear, sadness and frustration, this last emotion has the most dynamic component, to better understand it it is necessary to understand the importance of this dimension.
It is perfectly normal to be frustrated these days, our way of life has changed and personal, professional and economic uncertainty consumes us.
There are many things that concern us and others that irritate us, but beware!Because frustration is also a trigger for anger, it is she who will bring bad humour at certain times of the day and it is also she who will leave us full of dissatisfaction and nervousness.
To make good use of these emotions during childbirth, there is one thing you need to understand: anger and frustration are emotions that promote action (the opposite of sadness, much more introspective).
The secret is how to use them to channel them correctly. Frustration requires change, requires insight and creativity in order to respond to concerns.
Use your imagination. If you’re worried about your professional future, make a plan and think about alternatives without getting carried away with fatalism, use your mind to create a scenario of ideas that allows open, flexible and positive thinking to flow, it’s the only way to channel fear, sadness and frustration.
Go ahead, learn to be a good emotional manager and don’t forget to take care of yourself, as well as measure the temperature of your emotional health.