“There are people who have a partner, but they feel as lonely and empty as if they were.
There are others who, by not waiting, decide to walk with the wrong person, and in their selfishness, do not allow the other person to walk away, even if they know that it does not make them happy.
- There are people who defend marriage or commitment simply because they think being alone is difficult and unacceptable.
There are people who choose to take second place, trying to get to the first place, but the journey is difficult, uncomfortable and fills them with pain and abandonment.
But there are people who are alone and shining and who live life in the best way possible. These people don’t come out, on the contrary, they have more and more light every day.
There are people who learn to appreciate loneliness, because it helps them approach themselves, grow and strengthen their interior.
These people are the ones who one day, without knowing the exact moment or why, meet true love and fall in love in a wonderful way.
Mother Teresa of Calcutta
Each of the words in this composition contains enormous strength. The truth is, we keep the misleading belief that not having someone in life is scary. Few things inspire us as much sadness and compassion as seeing someone “alone. “
In fact, it seems that from a young time this shocked us, but the truth is that when we were children we knew how to seek company in solitude.
There are people who do not know, do not want or do not know the possibility of not having a partner or walking alone in life, and who are afraid of the people who make that decision, in them the need and fear of being alone is manifested. palpable.
They don’t understand that their company teaches them to understand what they want and what they don’t want in their life, to respect and defend their values, an attitude that favors love to happen in a very different way than when someone is not cultivated. because the love that appears is very similar to self-love.
Thus, people who love out of necessity enslave and maintain toxic relationships from the beginning. Unfortunately, this abundant need for affection is a virus that constantly threatens us, creating absolutely deadly addictions to self-love.
That’s why in our relationships we can find a wonderful treasure, it’s not about thinking that we are self-sufficient in all aspects, because although we really just need to breathe, the emotional aspect and life with others are very important to us. keep a healthy mind.
What we can say is that we don’t need anyone, but we prefer companies that are in tune with our interior, even if some people don’t understand it. This question of emotional independence can be summed up in a simple sentence: “It is much better for someone to need you because they love you, than to love because they need you. “
The loneliness chosen is great because it helps you get to know, feed and trust you as a protective bubble. You don’t need to have a partner to choose loneliness; you can have a life full of relationships, but you need to book a few minutes a day or a week.
We can enjoy the most intimate moments of solitude, this is only an option, but it is highly recommended for everyone.
It is often thought that chosen loneliness and forced loneliness are the same, but this is not true. Forced loneliness, in which you feel isolated in your pain, is a weapon that breaks humans.
Moreover, when we are involved in this kind of loneliness, we make mistakes in trying to show indifference, this thought will protect us and mask our sadness, but it can only destroy our love.
However, this does not happen when loneliness is chosen, when we need it to advise us and help us find that part of us that we have lost, accompany and enjoy moments of personal intimacy helps us to think and exercise the mind.
A lifetime has passed to try to be and make others happy, creating a constant obligation to respond to what others demand without thinking about our inner world. The loneliness or autonomy chosen is as close as possible to the experience of freedom, having the opportunity to eliminate the burden of our obligations for a few hours.
Without a doubt, despite what society tells us, meeting ourselves is highly desirable and, of course, the only way to achieve the inner balance that we have long dreamed of.
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