Like it or not, money is an important part of life, whether we like it or not, the issue of finance has become more complex with globalization, in addition, in many contexts, purchasing power is much less than in the time of our grandparents. Occur. That’s why many people, as adults, continue to rely financially on the family.
From a practical point of view, economic dependence is a viable and favorable solution to a specific problem, however, from a psychological point of view, this entails a number of difficulties when designing life projects. this changes the expectations and demands of parents or family members on whom children depend, increasing their scope of influence.
- Not having a job and being financially dependent also affects self-image and self-esteem.
- Many people think that relying on others is “comfortable”.
- But in many cases this idea.
- Besides false.
- Does a lot of damage.
“Economics is the root of independence and the companion of probation. “Lord Chesterfield.
Leaving aside that there are circumstances in which finding work becomes a difficult business, there are also cases in which parents directly promote economic dependence and, in addition, many of those who complain about this lack of autonomy, even if they seem contradictory, have behaviors that favor it.
The reasons can be many. Most of the time, one or both parents are uncomfortable with their own lives, so children can be an excuse not to look outside of themselves.
There is also the case for parents who have great difficulties as a couple with whom they have managed to do business, in the context of this conflict, children sometimes act as mediators or excuses, if children become independent they will have no choice but to see themselves and not be prepared to face their difficulties as a couple.
Likewise, there are parents who fear loneliness or do not want to bear the pain that arises from an announced reality, the gradual withdrawal of their children in search of their own space, a place where parents will have a place, but without always being the characters main or landmark.
Many parents unknowingly foster financial dependence on their children, overprotect them from a young time, turning them into unsafe and dependent people, and in the face of children’s attempts to make their own lives, react by discouraging, discouraging or manipulating them.
Those who have been educated in this way are more likely to fall into economic dependence in adulthood, are people who have little self-confidence and that is the main burden when leaving home, they need their own place in the world, but do not know how to build it.
Nor do they feel able to do that, which leads them to accept underpaid or unstable jobs, they also fall into paralysis when they lose their jobs and cannot easily find a new job.
Of course, when someone does not believe in themselves or does not trust what they are able to do, entrepreneurship at the job level is no longer an option, in fact, as the study of Novelo, Carrillo and Lupez (X Congress of the International Network of Researchers) indicates, self-efficacy is one of the most effective predictors in this regard.
The world is so threatening and inaccessible in their minds that they prefer to remain refugees in the family. Fear overcomes them. This fear is so great that they prefer to be criticized or not enjoy the privileges of independence, as long as they do not feel the vertigo of the challenges.
Unsafe and frustrated parents often give in to the ‘photocopier of children’. In addition to trying to find the right job and not find it, we must devote energies to solving the fundamental fears that hinder progress. It’s very difficult for someone to build a life project that they’re proud of.