It is normal for conflicts to arise between two people who have a good relationship, whether in the family, friendship or partner, however, learning to manage conflicts rather than avoiding them is critical to achieving the progress and maturity of these relationships.
A mismanaged conflict can cause enormous damage, however, when you manage it appropriately, respectfully and positively, it becomes an opportunity to strengthen the bond between people, as a result, developing conflict resolution skills strengthens personal and professional relationships and improves over time.
- Conflict comes from differences and occurs when people disagree with their values.
- Motivations.
- Perceptions.
- Ideas or desires.
The needs of both sides play an important role in the success of relationships, and everyone deserves respect and consideration. In personal relationships, a lack of understanding of the diversity of each person’s needs can lead to distances, discussions, or layoffs.
However, when people are able to recognize the legitimacy of conflicting needs and are willing to examine them with a global attitude, paths are opened up to creatively solve problems and improve relationships.
A conflict is always more than just a disagreement. It is a situation in which one or both parties perceive a threat. These threats affect our well-being; therefore, they remain with us until we decide to confront them to try to resolve them, so there is no point in ignoring the conflict, because far from disappearing, it develops through uncertainty.
Our perceptions are influenced by our experiences of life and culture, as well as by our values and beliefs. We generally respond to conflicts based on our perceptions of situations and do not necessarily act on the basis of an objective examination of the facts.
On the other hand, conflicts provoke strong emotions and, if we are not comfortable with them, or if we are not able to manage stress, it will be very difficult to solve them successfully.
However, conflicts are an opportunity for growth because, when we are able to overcome them, our trust in the relationship increases, this is due to the security that this relationship generates knowing that this relationship can survive the disagreements and the various challenges that may arise.
You should be able to recognize and respond to what matters to the other person, rather than obsessing over not recognizing and ignoring situations that may be relevant.
2. React calmly and respectfully, without getting defensive, instead of reacting explosively and showing irritation, resentment and an attitude that hurts the other person.
3) Be prepared to forgive and forget, to leave the conflict behind without resentment, do not try to show the other person that he does not care about the problem and that he is not afraid of rejection, which makes them feel isolated. and humiliated If he does, he can even cause fear of abandonment in the other person.
Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and compromise that they will do the same for you. Avoid punishments and verbal attacks.
5. Face conflict rather than avoid it for fear of uncomfortable results.