We often fantasize about forbidden ideas and desires that provoke ambivalent feelings. They are threads that lead to strange thoughts that appear in a “magic trick”. “Most of the time, they are perverse ideas that we cannot share with anyone, but that awaken Our desire The fact that we identify these desires that we ethically condemn is what produces this whirlwind of conflicting emotions.
However, the difference between thinking and doing is very great. If everything that goes through our imagination came true, surely we would have won the lottery several times and “murdered?” To some people who have caused a lot of trouble in our lives.
- When we imagine positive things.
- Such as having a lot of money or a friend is fine.
- Pleasant emotions invade us; However.
- When we desire evil or fantasize about someone other than our partner.
- We feel guilty.
- Us unpleasant feelings.
On several occasions our thoughts embarrass us, make us feel guilty, we want to get rid of them and we deceive ourselves by saying that they do not exist, but they are there and we cannot make them disappear.
The more we try to escape this desire, the more it haunts us, it is a paradoxical effect, like what happens when you decide not to think of a polar bear, although we try to avoid it, the polar bear does not abandon our heads.
So that you see for yourself how many times something can bring us negative emotions I offer you an experience, take a piece of paper and write the name of the person you love the most, keep that paper and I will tell you later what the next step will be.
Rationally, we know that thinking is something very different from doing, no one believes that because they think and want to win the lottery, it will really happen, however, the mind does not always work rationally.
There is often a fusion of thought and action and we come to believe that the more we think about something, the more likely we are to do it, in this way we make the mistake of believing that everything can become reality.
Let’s continue with the previous experience: take the piece of paper on which you wrote the name of this special person. Enter the name below :?I hope you die tomorrow!How are you feeling now?
We must assume that the concept of evil and good is something subjective and with very diffuse limits. An object or person will have one quality or another depending on the situation and point of view you are looking at.
No thought or desire makes us good or bad, all people, no matter how they are, have aggressive and loving thoughts, and that does not make them good or bad people, it only shows who we really are: thinking human beings, people with the wonderful ability to imagine.
Remember, as we said before, thinking is not the same as doing, you may dream that you have the car of your dreams and that doesn’t mean that when you wake up the car is in your garage. having sex with someone else without suggesting that this is really going to happen.
Sometimes guilt can become so intense that it overwhelms us, it seems that desires have a life of their own through our actions and we feel that we are unable to control what we think and do.
The lack of control over our forbidden desires and the great discomfort we feel are a warning, a warning that tells us that we may be confused because we do not know how to handle what is going on.
When your desires affect your daily life and cause suffering, or your actions, driven by your desires, violate someone else’s rights or the environment around you, it’s time to seek the help of a professional and try to learn to live healthier with your desires.
Thoughts are just thoughts. Desires and thoughts have the power you give them, it is neither necessary nor advisable to deny or flee your desires, let them in, look and after a while they leave.
Don’t try to expel your thoughts
Give them space, look and get carried away.
? Jon Kabat-Zinn?
The mind is a world full of possibilities where you can fantasize, desire, play and experiment, without necessarily turning it into action, only in the spirit we are truly free and have the advantage of possessing the true object of our life. wish.