The reason we are not satisfied is that we tend to overestimate the impact that the facts will have in the future, no matter if the fact is negative or positive, what matters is that this overestimation makes us imagine a situation, for example winning the lottery and having an emotional reaction in the present, so we assume how we will feel if this fact becomes a reality , this is the origin of all our predictions that didn’t work.
We don’t realize that our emotional state is changing, let’s say we win the lottery, but at that moment a loved one died and we’re sad, what we assume is something that would bring us a lot of happiness becomes a circumstance that we can’t taste and appreciate. Relying on our current emotional state to assume what will happen in the future makes us have more predictions that have not worked than good predictions.
“The best way to predict the future is to create the future. -Peter F. Drucker-
In addition to assuming what can make us happy we rely on our present state, we also use another resource: the past, we seek those memories that we have of certain experiences to predict a future that may not meet our expectations. , forecasts that didn’t work have not been successful because they are full of expectations.
Let’s think, for example, that we have not had much luck with the colleagues we already had in all the places where we worked, we never managed to establish a good relationship with them because they tried to manipulate us, they always wanted to stand out and leave us in a bad position? For this reason, we can try to predict what will happen in future work in two different ways.
If we have low self-esteem and our self-confidence has been affected by these experiences, perhaps we will assume that the same will happen to us in that next job. We will arrive with fear, a lot of insecurity and fear of what? Happens. Otherwise, we will dream and want to find kind people with who we can establish a positive relationship, probably not only in the professional sphere, but also personally.
One hypothesis and another can lead us to have predictions that have not worked, because events are unpredictable. Maybe we are lucky to get it right, everything is going as we think, we generally hope that everything is positive, but what if it is not? So what we think we could make happy will make us very sad.
“Long-term planning does not mean thinking about future decisions, but the future of current decisions. -Peter F. Drucker-
Our failed predictions aren’t just about our emotional state or past experiences. There’s also something else we need to pay attention to. We generally pay attention to the details that we think are important. For example, with colleagues, we focus only on the professional relationship, but what about the work itself?What will contribute to our professional growth?
We neglect certain aspects because our emotions in the present moment lead us to focus on something that affects us and that we want to change, the fact that I am not rich, that I do not have good companions, that I do not have You have already been able to have children?All this makes us believe that winning the lottery, having wonderful companions or having a child will make us happy, but what if it doesn’t?
Sometimes we can make hasty decisions based on these predictions that may not come true as we expected. Something we thought would make us happy, suddenly we realized that this is not true. What’s going on is that it’s too late to go home.
We need to be aware that emotions are disappearing. Winning the lottery can make us happy, but that emotion will not last forever, we will always have bad times, experiences that will sadden us and even overestimate this fact can make us act without precautions and, therefore, we could be full of debts.
“Trying to predict and control the future is a utopia. Life is uncertain and unpredictable. Security is only apparent, one?Illusion? Mind. ? -Monica Fusté-
We all made predictions that didn’t work out, understanding that they are conditioned by our current preferences, and overestimation of what we feel, that won’t be permanent, will help us live longer in the moment and accept what can happen without creating too many expectations.