Forgive yourself, be brave enough to have mercy on yourself. Do you stop criticizing yourself, blaming yourself, thinking about what would have happened if you had acted differently?Why are you treating you so badly?
Do you really think that by treating yourself this way, you’ll move forward on something?Do you think punishing yourself is the solution to your mistakes?A mistake is just something that went wrong when you tried, not the reason to sink the one who did it. Forgive me.
- Don’t you have to hate yourself.
- Yell inside.
- Attribute all the most negative qualities you can find?What you did that wasn’t fair shouldn’t become most of your identity.
- How can you do that?reduce everything that’s just a mistake?Why are you hiding your values.
- Your virtues.
- Your intelligence? Forgive me.
I understand that you did not want this to happen, that it was not your intention, but I do not understand that from that moment you were hiding in the deep cavern of self-contempt, let me tell you something. I don’t want to convince you, I just ask you to think. Then you decide.
Making a mistake is human. Making mistakes is common, especially if we want to evolve, not only do you, but the whole world, some every day, some from time to time?We make so many choices in our lives that it’s impossible to always identify the best option,As William James said, when we have to make a choice and we can’t make it, it’s already a choice and, as such, there’s an opportunity to make a mistake.
As you can see, you haven’t done anything others haven’t done, on the contrary, it’s the norm, not the exception. Although you insist on thinking otherwise, a mistake is an invitation to discover another way, another way of doing things, a direct springboard to improve. It’s not a hole where you have to fall to stop going out, get stuck and give up everything, it’s no reason to criticize you, be your judge and your executor.
Now there are mistakes and mistakes. It must be said, there are those who commit themselves unintentionally and those involving intentional offense and humiliation against others, are much more complex and require more special treatment, especially if they are repeated in time.
They may be warnings of pride, resentment or emotional immaturity, in any case when you lose control of these feelings it is best to consult a professional, but I did not come here to talk about the latter, but the first. Those mistakes that we make most of the time and that become our chains?
You may not have noticed it yet, but from your mistake, little by little, you’ve become your worst enemy, the first day you regretted it and thought you were a fool, but all you did was throw poisonous words at you. I’ve declared war.
Have you fallen into the most voracious and ruthless self-criticism?until we reach the deepest contempt. And all this in silence. Yes, doing his daily chores, going from place to place, in the shower, in bed?Without realizing it, you classified yourself as a monster, and although hardly anyone could see it, your guts were broken.
Maybe you leave clues, such as being defensive or more unpleasant than usual, you may also have limited your life a little more, you no longer want to do certain things, or you’ve stopped talking to others. The mistake has completely invaded your life and disoriented you.
Doubt, excessive anxiety, comparison, guilt and criticism are now your best friends, it seems that you can’t do anything without these feelings, and if they don’t show up, you’re going to look for them. with the feeling of discomfort.
Do you still think you’ve coped with your mistake in the best way possible?Do you think becoming your enemy is the right price to make a mistake?Let me tell you something: no. You’re much more than the collection of all your mistakes.
Forgiveness is learning to reinvent itself
Perdónate. Es the only way to break with everything you’ve built so far. The best way to break the chains that tie you up so you can move on. But don’t do it by impulse or because you’re reading about it right now, but because you’re really sorry.
What’s done is done. You can’t change, you don’t have the power to travel back in time to change what happened, but you have the courage to change that mistake by looking for alternatives, this doesn’t mean you ignore the problem, but you have the courage to take responsibility for the mistake you made.
Look at yourself in the mirror and make peace with yourself. Apologize. Do it for real, from the bottom of your heart. Give yourself another chance. Because there’s nothing to teach us more than a mistake. If we choose you as a teacher and not as a company, of course.