It is very common to see parents scolding, punishing, and even beating their children to make them more obedient. However, it has been shown that parents who stay calm and try to control their emotional reactions earn more in this regard.
When your child is in conflict or misbehaves, try to understand why he’s behaving this way. It’s important to avoid judging him or making him think he’s criticizing him.
- Many parents get attention and scold them right away.
- While their children just want a little attention.
- They usually disrespect them when they feel attacked and don’t want to lose control.
- Will respond with the same attitude.
It will always be difficult to get respect from someone we don’t understand, try to analyze and understand what causes your child’s disrespect when they’re constant and talk about it rationally, you’ll probably realize that the reasons can be very varied and aren’t always easy to identify.
For example, your child may start disrespecting him every morning before going to school. If, instead of punishing him, he talks to him, he may find that he is being harassed because his peers are bullying him or because he does not feel part of the class Whatever the problem, it is essential to identify him and then act.
Let us be realistic, all the disobedience of our children is not their responsibility, sometimes it is we who do not feel respected, in this case it is important to explain to them the situation that they find disrespectful and ask them not to repeat such behavior. Children need parents, to explain certain situations for them to understand, because they don’t always know what they’ve done wrong.
Keep in mind that disobedient children may not realize they are doing something that affects themselves or their parents. For example, if your child used to play loud music late at night and when he returns to school, he still does. , you can explain that the situation has changed, because the schedules have also changed.
If you stop thinking and analyzing situations that seem disrespectful to you, you will likely find that sometimes you simply take the behaviors out of context and have nothing to do with the aggression. Being aware of this will help reduce your level of frustration and teach your children that respect is sometimes a subjective matter.
To educate respectful children, it is essential to preach by example, so that they learn to respect with objectivity.
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