“Do you learn to love your children when you love them for who they are and not what you would like them to be?
The first time I heard that phrase it was the girl and it was my mom who pronounced it, it wasn’t easy for her to allow me to embark on an adventure with many chances of failure, but her answer was this one, disarming me. and freeing myself at the same time. Let me be who I wanted to be, and love me in spite of everything
- This was.
- Is and will be a lesson that I will never forget.
- An example to follow with my children and that confirms and reinforces the opinions of experts like Maria Montessori.
- For whom the essence of education is to help children in their development process.
- Adapting to the circumstances presented to you.
Although the author developed his own method in the late 19th century, it is not obsolete, is now used in the most innovative schools and is an inspiration to parents around the world.
The Montessori methodology aims to make our children grow free and happy, because children are seen as the hope of humanity.
But when is a child considered free?When do we let you do whatever you want?When do we respect the way you are?
No! Maria Montessori talks about a different kind of freedom. According to their method, our children absorb information such as sponges, learn spontaneously, as well as learn to crawl. This method is based on respect for the child.
“Is the children’s greatest instinct precisely to free themselves from the adult?
? Maria Montessori?
In addition, according to Montessori, characteristics normally associated with childhood (such as slogans, selfishness, inability to concentrate, laziness, etc. ) only appear when the child’s natural development encounters obstacles, when the child is free and in an environment adapted to his needs. their requirements, these characteristics do not manifest themselves.
“Can’t anyone be free if they’re not independent?
? Maria Montessori?
The mother who feeds her child, without making the effort to teach him to hold the spoon, does not educate him, learn to eat, wash, dress is a much harder job than feeding, washing or dressing.
Subjecting your child to the effort to perform these tasks independently will help him become a better and safer adult of his or her abilities and, in general, of yourself.
Age is not an excuse or a problem, no one is too young to learn to do things independently. Let’s not justify our children’s attitudes by blaming their age.
In addition, getting our applause when they do something right will be enough motivation to make them strive to do better next time.
Children are receptive and curious by nature. If we teach them to do things as accurately as possible, they always will.
“Is any unnecessary help an obstacle to development?
? Maria Montessori?
It is a good technique to minimize our interventions, to look without compromising your freedom, look a lot and say little. This is true for both teachers and us, their parents.
Children need to be corrected if they’re wrong, but not when they do things their way and not ours. They should be free to make mistakes, understand them, and not make mistakes in the future.
Every child is a world in itself and we, his parents, have a duty to provide them with a suitable environment, an environment that serves their growth. An environment in which they can express themselves better and learn for themselves to be self-sufficient. Strengthen their talents, always encourage them to do their best.
Let us listen to your needs, satisfy your curiosities, answer your questions . . . Let’s take a great journey towards happiness!
Original Spanish text by Marta García González