We are specialists in filling our heads with ideas and expectations. When we’re in college, we think about finding a great job; If we are married, we dream of a happy life with that person and that is why we spend our lives always waiting our best.
On the contrary, to have a successful life you have to have goals, if you do not challenge yourself at all times, you cannot move forward.
- “Suffering is terrible and traumatic.
- We become enraged.
- We sing in fists.
- And weep to vent our anger.
- But.
- In the process.
- We discovered a new tomorrow that we didn’t even imagine?.
-Rob Bell-
The problem is, we’re not always realistic about what we’re looking for. When we want something beyond our means, we get frustrated.
If you focus on the step-by-step, you avoid the pain of not meeting expectations.
To avoid the pain caused by high expectations, it is necessary to create realistic goals, the secret is to find a balance between your ambitions and your possibilities.
Of course, you can dream big, but you can’t expect immediate success and little effort.
“A goal, a goal, a wish, are used to determine today’s action to get tomorrow’s result. “
-Peter Drucker-
Think about the people you admire and you’ll notice that everyone has been moving forward step by step. Before planning the wedding and the names of the children you will have with your partner, spend the first six months with your partner.
When you focus on achieving small goals, you create the perfect path to your ultimate goal.
“Those who say that life is not worth mistaken are wrong, in fact they admit that they have no valid goals. Set a goal worth fighting for to the end. Always have a list of goals to reach When you finish one, do you have another one to work with?.
-Maxwell Martz-
Most of our high expectations depend on our education. If we’ve been taught that successful people have the car of the year and a big house, that’s what we’re looking for.
But have you ever thought about what success is to you, how is success measured?
It’s hard to believe, but everywhere there are people with great social success, but little emotional satisfaction.
After buying this huge house in a luxury condominium, it is possible that the debt you have incurred will make you unhappy, in this case, the emotional and financial pain will be very great.
Stop and think about how you can measure your success. You can count on the following:
Here are some options to help you find your system without feeling pressured by others.
Avoid talking to young people about success as the main goal of life, the most important reason for struggle in life and school is the pleasure of working, the pleasure of the result obtained and the knowledge of the value of the result for the whole community.
-Albert Einstein-
I don’t want you to believe that you should lower your expectations in life, on the contrary, they will help you progress and become a better person.
The key is that we only evolve when we face a challenge that makes us happy, if on the way you forget yourself, what you want and make you happy, the pain will be inevitable.
Whatever happens, always remember that you are the protagonist of your story.
“We must believe in ourselves; that’s where the secret is. Even when I was in the orphanage and walking the streets looking for food to survive, I still considered myself the largest in the world. Without absolute self-confidence, we are doomed to fail?
-Charlie Chaplin-