Friendships are those in which people share certain aspects of their personal lives, as they coincide with certain values, beliefs, afitions, and opinions.
These relationships may be between women and men, but still, taboos still exist if friendship is born between a man and a woman.
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- “Isn’t it good to have friends of the other sex?” It is often thought that this relationship is based on sexual attraction between the two “friends”.
2. “Everyone will think you’re dating. ” Therefore, we usually try to avoid or hide this type of personal relationship, concerned about what society will say.
3. “You always want something else”. This prejudice is another reason why this type of friendship is avoided, in this case, for fear of what may happen or for the other’s claims, especially if one fears that it is not the same as what he wants.
In life we do not choose our parents, children or colleagues or neighbors, but we choose our friendships for compatibility in certain facets of our lives, we also choose our partners, and in addition to compatibility, we look for something else, a feeling that makes friendship very different from that of a couple.
Both options are based on very different compatibility, but many seem to overlook that. As a result, there is a social prejudice to mistakenly think that any friendship with the opposite sex can end up in court or become a sexual relationship.
On the other hand, the two relationships differ in character, because the relationship is private, where both will seek intimate environments and closeness, while friendship has a social and public character, not looking for the intimate atmosphere. , Close and private looking for couples or those who want something else.
If we understand the difference between the two types of relationships, friendships and couples, then we can only be friends without fear, trying to hide, and without worrying about what society will think.
Conflict arises when it is unclear and we continue to think or fear that, because we are friends, we have ‘special rights’.
Certainly, in many cases, a couple is born of the friendship that brought them, it was she who allowed them to know each other well, and then led them to another sense of attraction, passion or love.
However, the relationships of all couples are not the same. Sometimes “love at first sight” appears, attraction and friendship end later, with daily coexistence.
It is important to make differences about the type of relationship we have or want, because that is the only way we can fully enjoy it, without fear or hiding.
Openly expressing and dealing with what everyone wants or expects from the relationship means not to make mistakes, not to seek or expect something that the other person does not want, and even not to damage the current relationship with bad expectations.
Moreover, not clarifying things generates emotional conflicts, because we can confuse friendship with another type of relationship, such as the one in which a feeling arises between the two, or the one whose purpose is to satisfy an emotional need or need of one of the parties involved in the relationship. .
It’s as simple as exposing to the other person what we expect or want from the relationship, while listening to what the other person has to say, this way we’ll know what kind of relationship we have and what to expect. The fear of something happening will disappear and we will allow ourselves to enjoy a healthy friendship, as long as we agree with the other side.
Every time and when friendship is well defined and the relationship too, there will be no conflict.
When we decided to go out with us, we did not give up our social life, the life we had before, or the life that might arise when we found our partner.
In fact, the relationships of couples who condemn, renounce or ask the other to abandon everything, are doomed to failure, because this behavior will generate nullion and personal isolation, causing misfortunes in the relationship.
Therefore, it is not only possible, but also practical to maintain both a friendship and a relationship, which can be shared and shared with the couple, or their own friendships.
At any time it is convenient for the couple to leave their trust and sincerity intact. Friendship is not a sin, but a social aspect inherent to the human being.
The best way for your partner to accept the friendly relationships you have with people of the opposite sex is to integrate them into your circle of friendships, and let them participate in that friendship if you wish, because, as we said, friendships are public and social and can be shared with more people. , because they don’t seek intimacy.
Take friendship naturally, without hiding anything, or lying to your partner, because a misstep can lead you to misunderstand things, because you will move friendship in the private, secret and intimate environment in which relationships relate, that differ slightly from pure friendships or that are directed only to that.