Adolescence is a stage of life where we began to explore certain emotional facets that until now were not relevant, however, cultural influence has already instilled some concepts of what a relationship should be.
First love: feeling that we are important to someone in a special way makes us feel good, different from others from the point of view of your loved one, this generates so much insecurity, fear of losing those emotions and anger when things are not like U. S. I wish they were, so we try to perpetuate this union in an attempt to free ourselves from all these unpleasant sensations.
- If you look at the romantic symbols.
- You will find padlocks that symbolize one.
- Together forever.
- Symbolic but unreal.
- Since they do not perpetuate the continuity of happiness.
- Only that of the bond.
- Which is unbreakable.
Reality has little to do with what we want, they tell us about the happiness of being in love, what it is to have an orange half to find, regardless of that we are already complete beings and that emotions are not stable. over time, as they can increase, decrease, change and transform.
We try to control the physical so that we can control someone else’s emotions, we want them to love us forever and, instead of taking care of this bond, we live in fear of losing our partner controlling their movements, their freedom, their way of dressing, your messages on WhatsApp, your friendships?
We may have you by this way, but not with us, because your emotions will always oscillate, instead of uniting more, these emotions will create a wall between the couple and their environment, with this, the relationship will be isolated in a transparent cage with bars of fear and misfortune.
The paradoxical thing is that we wonder if there is love in relationships with violence and, if there is, the saddest and most disturbing thing is to think that this feeling is the engine of violence for those who exercise it, on the basis that they manifest. jealousy, anger, insecurities, and conditions each other’s lives by trying to eliminate this discomfort caused by the fear of losing the couple, so they use different strategies, such as emotional blackmail, insults, disrecognise, jealousy with others. Etc.
The anger you feel in the face of certain behaviors that determine, through rigid rules, how your partner’s relationship and attitude should be justified by love, a concept so ingrained that it is not only in the conception of those who exercise violence, but of those who suffer from it. That, because established machismo makes us reproduce patterns without questioning them, regardless of our gender. We need to unlearn and change our models of response to male relationships.
Breaking our transparent cage is not just a matter of who is inside; we all contribute by validating, approving or silencing sexist behavior, so we must change the root of this behavior, we must stop acting on our discomfort and start doing so based on what we want for our future. Those who are with us do so because it is rewarding every day, and not because, drunk with love, they have entered into a contract in the past that currently does not pay and feeds on fear.