Who’s never had a love disappointment? Generally, those who suffer an emotional injury develop some aversion to being exposed to situations similar to that caused them such suffering, love is one of those situations.
So, especially in the early stages of emotional healing, many people get closer and have trouble getting started again. However, others do the exact opposite and quickly seek someone to repair the damage, thinking that “one love heals the other. “
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- Be very demanding: This is very demanding when starting a new relationship with someone.
- Sometimes these demands are even realistic.
- But other times they are exaggerated and made unconsciously.
- So as not to suffer more; they are like defense mechanisms.
Many people claim to be un flirtatious and very demanding, but often behind this behavior lies the fear of suffering, so they always find something in others to sabotage their new relationships.
2. Living in the past: it means not being able to close a previous romantic phase, reminds the person who believes that it will not be possible to meet someone like him, the problem is that when you think you can’t someone like that, it can fall into inactivity.
In the end, the person may never meet someone like him again, but that’s because he doesn’t take the initiative to meet new people. There are so many people in the world! It’s always possible to find the right profile for you, but to meet someone you have to stay socially active.
3. Autosabotage: Sabotage means to be very negative when defining yourself; Don’t believe in yourself, get down, find excuses not to do something, etc. ?This creates obstacles to achieving any goal.
After a bad experience, people with low self-esteem often experience feelings of guilt and failure, it is precisely these negative feelings and thoughts that are generated that make it difficult for the person to be receptive again to a similar situation. Don’t feel valued, you’ll find it difficult to open up or expose yourself before the start of a new stage.
Thoughts and feelings have a very intimate relationship, so feelings can vary depending on how we think and can generate feelings with our way of thinking, separation can cause us fear, anger or sadness. Moving forward is not an obligation, but a great opportunity to achieve something better. In fact, if it ended, it was probably because it wasn’t good enough.
Knowing that we can have some control over and become aware of our emotions is the first step in being able to use one of the most powerful weapons we have. Allowing ourselves to use it is a difficult step that we can and cannot take; sometimes knowing the degree of control we can achieve can create a great fear of responsibility.
Basically, the mind functions as an echo of emotions. So, if for example we go to the mountain on a rainy day and focus on the mud of the road and the temperature it does, our emotions will not be good, however, if we decide to ignore the negative and look at the beautiful landscape, we will feel good. We will be and we will be satisfied.
After all, nothing in this life is eternal, not even our own existence, we need to allow something that needs to end from start to finish and understand that this end does not make it lose its value, but it gives us the opportunity to discover and start new projects. It’s a way of thinking and acting that helps us not end up losing our lives.
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