We all know people who are always present and ready for anything, especially when it is necessary to solve a problem or when something bad happens.
It’s this person we call when we’re in trouble, when we’re in a dilemma, when we don’t have time to do something, and when we need a hand. This is the first option in our contact list when something goes wrong, because we know that we can count on your help, your discernment, your presence whatever it is.
- Similarly.
- There are people who take this course also in their sentimental relationships.
- Assuming on themselves the full weight of the responsibility that should be shared.
- And then it will always be they who decide what and where to eat.
- When and where to eat.
- Travel for the holidays.
- Which mall to visit.
- Which store to enter.
- What account to pay.
- From choosing the curtain to renovating the bathroom or buying a new car.
- Everything in these cases is always decided by one of the partners.
They have the ability to seek solutions, to help without hesitation, to be present as soon as necessary, they are very expensive and essential in times of storms mainly, because we know that they will be there to help us, support our falls and make decisions that we will not be able to make, however, as they are remembered when things go wrong, we must not forget them when everything goes well.
Being always willing and present to help is rewarding, it does well and makes us ever better, more mature and better in life, because we end up unbalanced by our own problems, sure that we will face setbacks. face defeat soberly. We will not need explicit recognition, because it will be part of our nature to face life at every step, as long as it says no.
However, facing ingratitude will be one of our needs on this path, because graces and smiles will not always return, there will not always be those who will recognize what we have done, who will say at least ‘thank you’, who will remind us when the time comes for pleasure, calms down.
As much as we need recognition, the insistence on giving without receiving anything in return fatigue and drains energies, because the affectivity that goes without return is not sustained, does not last long, nothing makes a speech where there is no encounter, where the emptiness echo is the only answer obtained.
Helping those who need it is a pleasurable and rewarding attitude in itself, however, it hurts to see you as someone who is interesting only when the other needs it, as selfless as we do, we must set limits, without harming our self-esteem. , so as not to get lost, so as not to prioritize the other at the expense of our lives. We must be someone who feels and not something useful. We need heat, human heat, silly phone calls and conversations about nothing.
Being able to help, provide comfort and seek solutions is wonderful, but being there and being loved in the rain and in a warm, sunny climate is what will make us safer and happier, because one day you die, but in everyone else you live. And living together is too good.