It doesn’t matter if they’ve been living together (married or not) for just a few months or several years. The path to a happy and healthy couple begins to be traced from day one. I’m sure you know you have to give and also accept in return. Balance can be one of the words that best defines a couple, no doubt. Everything should, as far as possible, be “fair. “
If it is always someone who gives or receives, in the long run the relationship eventually wears out and suffering will appear. Nobody says that a perfect couple is one who does not have problems, who does not argue or who does not go through difficult times. ; It is quite the opposite, an ideal couple is one who, despite everything, continues to move forward, side by side.
- So.
- If you have problems with your partner.
- If you think you don’t understand how you used to.
- You’re arguing more than usual.
- You’re not listening.
- Everyone’s in a different air.
- Then it’s time to take a look at this advice from a specialist in couple and family psychology.
Be prepared to transform your desires and needs: this means that it is not always possible to do what we want; the other also has the right to enjoy what he likes. Committing to each other to make you happy is an obligation we will have to face. This does not mean abandoning our preferences, but, as mentioned above, being fair. Reason is always not healthy at all. Be more tolerant to make common life more enjoyable and enjoyable. Learn to accept customs, habits and even whims?for another, but still in balance.
Take advantage of the other: one of the most common problems is that everyone does what they want without each other’s company, that’s good to a certain extent, because they also need to share things together, from watching a movie to walking. Simple breakfast in bed on Sunday morning, a delicious dinner alone at home (without children for example), a “romantic weekend”, etc. Try at least once a month to do something for them and no one else. Difficult to achieve is also to enjoy when the other is happy to do something that we may not like so much, for example, men watch a football game and women watch a love movie (although today many women prefer sports or men choose a romantic story, but that’s just to illustrate that point).
To say positive things about each other: being in public, whether it’s on a birthday, a meeting, a party, etc. Never criticize the other, mock, ridicule or insult your partner. Do the exact opposite; your attitudes should make you feel safe, supported and above all respected, value it with truths and characteristics that stand out in your personality or highlight any achievement you have had at work, university, etc.
Feeling safe: is there anything better than rest? In a place where we know nothing bad is going to happen to us. From a hug to a caress, it’s not necessarily a physical place, but a feeling. When two people are completely safe, It is much easier to create a good relationship, always be open to dialogue, not be afraid of different lines or points of view, not be afraid of each other’s boredom, accept the answers and ask for their opinion. intimacy (which is not always sexual) and the freshness and health of the couple.
Communicate for understanding: Try to speak when both are calm, not when anger or nerves dominate them. Remember that even a small disagreement can become a much bigger fight and even a separation. It is not good to let this happen, it is better to speak calmly, that is, in a position of communion, goodwill, positive attitude, without defying, mocking, or seeking a fight.
Asking for forgiveness is an act of generosity: it is also a manifestation of repentance and commitment, even if it sounds so simple, this six-letter word is one of the hardest to pronounce, especially when we are angry, crazy, sad, nervous. Etc. And another important issue is learning to accept it. You have to feel free to express your emotions; if you’re not a person with that?forgiveness of the skin, it is important to work on it. The same goes for “thank you. “
Sleep as close as possible: some say it is vital to go to bed with the problem solved, others say it is better to let the evening hours go by to reconsider Is it proven that you sleep a lot?With your partner, the Sleep Ability is significantly improved, nightmares are avoided, more rest is rested, stress is left out, etc. So you know: for reasons of physical and mental health, it’s better to sleep hugging.
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