“Manipulators seek to persuade people to go beyond their limits. With innuendo, they manipulate the circumstances to impose themselves. They seduce others to do what they are asked to do. They use messages loaded with guilt. “
In our lives, at work, in society, in the family, it is common to be surrounded by people who easily exert some influence on us, when this influence is used for the sole purpose of satisfying and nurturing one’s needs, above one’s own. others, it’s called manipulation.
- We can say that many people around us develop this type of behavior.
- It is very difficult to perceive when we are being manipulated.
- Because these people use very subtle mechanisms (deceive.
- Threaten.
- Scare).
- Using a skill that transforms manipulation into art.
- Manipulation is an action with disastrous consequences.
Sometimes we tend to override our needs to meet the needs of others, primarily to avoid conflict, or to maintain obligations?With the people closest to us, but we are actually victims of the trap of manipulation and blackmail. Great manipulators know every inch of our most vulnerable points and secrets, because sometimes they are very close to us.
Thus, they know us very well, they know exactly what our needs and needs are, they use the threat of retaining or diminishing their affection for us, in case we prevent them from influencing us, they use fear, revenge, guilt and punishment. to torment us, but they are also able to disguise, with great skill, the pressure and dominance they exert on us. When a manipulative person feels that his power, or authority, is being questioned, his manipulative behavior accelerates to the maximum.
I’m sure the examples below are easily recognizable by everyone, given that at some point we’ve already heard:?I’m capable of killing our children, if you ask me for a divorce!?,?My daughter, don’t go home if you don’t end this relationship,?,?I’ll kill myself if you leave me!?,? Mom, if you make me do chores, I get sick ??,?You never remember me or you call me ??,? Don’t worry about what I’ve been suffering all this time ??,?I’ll only help you if you give me your bag,?,? can I only wait for you if you buy plane tickets?, ‘if’ if’.
When we are dominated in one way or another, we are the subject of manipulative people, if we agree to do or say things that we do not wholely agree with, we are victims of emotional blackmail, which manipulates and makes our behavior vulnerable.
If we meet the demands of manipulators, they will repeat their manipulation, we must establish a solid foundation, limits that guarantee our space and integrity, in which our needs and desires are not undone. The problem with being surrounded by such people is being infected and eventually no longer being just victims to become a manipulator as well.