More and more messages are telling us how happy we should be, because all we have is the gift to enjoy.
Being optimistic is a very useful personality quality to deal with the new changes or injuries that occur in life, but being positive is not enough, extreme optimism is as damaging as extreme pessimism, mainly because the imposition of this perpetual optimism demoralizes some people. The dictatorship of euphoria shames those who suffer.
- In this article we will try to understand what aspects are easy to detect to distinguish the dictatorship from happiness and democratic coexistence from different emotions.
- Including happiness.
“The happiness of life is always having something to do, someone to love and something to expect” Thomas Chalmers
Happiness is often backed by a large-scale medium: advertising, which tells us what to buy, what we have to do, all the self-help books we need to read to be happy. Only beautiful, healthy and happy people appear in magazines and succeed.
These beautiful, happy and eternally smiling people show us our “bitterness. “Then it would be interesting to buy or do what they do and say to have more happiness. Me, so sad? I don’t fit into this society.
“My happiness is knowing what I have and not wanting too much what I don’t have?Leon Tolstoy-
What should be the proper posture? We simply buy what we need and what suits our profile and economic ability, recognizing that these are the temporal pleasures of the world, when people are happy, try to prove it, but between what it shows and reality there is a great distance.
It’s about having fun with some messages, but we shouldn’t take them for granted. A lot of these sick messages from? Beauty has led to diseases such as anorexia and bulimia. We must not allow this to happen with the model of happiness, we live our lives naturally.
Happiness is a state, a flow, a moment that life can give us at any time and under any circumstances, to think that happy moments can only happen in ideal circumstances is to deny the greatness of a rainy day, which is gray and somewhat uncomfortable. , but also hypnotic, even more so if we plan to listen to one of Erik Satie’s Gymnopedie songs.
You will never know when a moment of happiness will appear, or if, of an undesirable situation, a moment of happiness will appear, the truth is that an open attitude will ensure that you do not miss anything positive.
Today more than ever, we are medicalizing our emotions. If they are sad, we consider them intolerable and want to get them out of our existence as soon as possible; if they are happy, we want to stimulate them and externalize them to exhaustion, ignoring the fundamental characteristic of an emotion: it is generally intense and has a temporary character.
We want our minds to shelter the positive and penalize and expel the negative, how can we then differentiate a pleasant state from another that is not ? what would be our survival if we could not remember the negative memories?How would we have evolved as a species and as human beings?
We need to analyze ourselves as complex people that we are, capable of supporting different emotions, letting all emotions come to us and embrace them: this is the only way to live fully, if we give in only to feelings of euphoria, we will end up in the indigestion.
There is no struggle or dream that does not involve dedication and renunciation, even if we sometimes have a passion for our dreams and may even motivate this renunciation, we will not understand it as such, but as a way to walk the path that leads to it.
However, of course, we will have to leave behind some of the aspects that are important to us to achieve a greater goal, this type of renunciation does not drown us, but giving up spending more time with the people we love can cause us fear and discomfort.
“Is happiness not doing what you want, but wanting what you do?-Jean Paul Sartre-
We could decide to be always happy and, therefore, to give up goals that we know beforehand that will create complicated moments for us, however, this obsessive pursuit of happiness, because it does well all the time, it is not synonymous with mental health: It also needs tension in your life, disappointments and uncertainties.
Feeling good as a cultural norm can make us lose our senses, a person who has hope and yearns for an ideal will endure more discomfort than those who have assumed the desire to be happy all the time as an essential condition. lost its essence and meaning by wanting to live it by being happy.