Books and conferences are part of a complete and sessed showcase with different formulas to achieve happiness structured around diffuse constants, many share the same mistake: they place happiness outside of us.
So, in the face of this picture, a question arises, why is there a shared idea of happiness, a definition that works for me, my neighbor and the people on the other side of the planet?
- Happiness is always sensitive to circumstances and.
- Therefore.
- Individuality.
- It may be better to talk about complicated ways of being happy.
- Dreams that we greatly idealize and.
- When they disappear.
- Leave a great void.
Everything around us makes us seek happiness outside of ourselves, that is, if we buy a new car, we will be happy; if we have a partner, we will feel tremendously realized, for example. Advertising only reinforces this idea. The danger is that we may be talking about joy, not happiness.
Happiness is more like a state, something to do with what’s left and not what dissipates faster than champagne bubbles. An echo that survives emotions; Whatever happens, it’s with us, maybe we’re talking about the ability to unite the elements of what’s happening to us to learn and feel good.
“Unable to find happiness in ourselves, we desperately seek it in objects, in experiences, in ways of thinking, or behaving more and more strangely. In a word: we turn away from happiness in search of where it doesn’t exist. ? -Matthew Ricard-
If happiness is a state of mind, then our thoughts are the main actors, a cast that, motivated by emotions or what happens to us, does not always interpret a scenario favorable to our interests, however, the positive thing about this is that it can intervene in this script, for this you only have to observe them. Therefore, it may be important to practice meditation.
Let’s identify the large number of automatic thoughts that we have in a day that are complaints, judgments, complaints, self-criticism, etc. , being aware of this is very revealing, we will discover or rediscover a part of ourselves that we may have. forgotten or that, perhaps, we never realized that it existed.
If we see a mistake as an opportunity, a dismissal as a small push to change jobs (what we have always wanted to do), we are taking a big step towards the state of happiness, that is, promoting positive thoughts about negative thoughts. it’s the secret.
Feeling good does not mean that there are no negative thoughts in our minds; means it will be a more difficult place to survive these negative thoughts.
One who is considered “the happiest man in the world,” Matthieu Ricard, explains that one can think of the sea to understand this issue. Although its surface is altered by wind or a strong succession of waves, it remains calm below.
“I refer to happiness as a deep sense of blossoming that flows from an exceptionally healthy mind. It is not just a pleasant feeling, a fleeting emotion or a state of mind; but the best state of being. Happiness is also a form of interpret the world, because if it is difficult to change the world, is it always possible to change the way we see it? . – Matthew Ricard-
Many people understand happiness as a well-being, others as a balance, not as something momentary, but as something maintained in time, but for this to be possible we must find our own definition of happiness, dress it intelligently, with suitcases that correspond to our desires.
In short, moving away from the “truths about happiness” that advertising insists so much on can open up a great space in front of us, in which we can decide what we want to install there. More than buying or acquiring, it’s about choosing wisely.